Children learn and absorb from their parents from a tender age. Parents set examples and models which children will have the tendency to replicate. Hence it is natural that a strong mother will generally raise a strong (independent and self made) child just like herself.
Read to know the signs that define a strong mother.
SHE INSPIRES YOU TO HAVE YOUR OWN OPINION AND STANCE
Your mother doesn’t try to force things onto you, instead she allows you to speak for yourself, acknowledges your opinion and in exchange of your opinion she responds with her own, with reasons suitable for either alteration or acceptance of your opinion. She will always take you into confidence even if she negates you, because she isn’t competing against you but she is competing with you and she wants you to be the best.
SHE TEACHES YOU HOW TO TEACH YOURSELF
Just like a good teacher in school or college teaches us how to read and analyse a poem on our own, instead of explaining it to us as if we were dumb kids, similarly a strongmother will not instruct her kid regarding how to go about a particular situation at every point in life. She will guide us but let us handle ourselves so that we can learn from our mistakes. For example, if you’re victim to a fowl relationship she will sit and explain to you the reasons why you should opt out of the relationship and what the consequences could be if you don’t but she will not nag you constantly regarding it. She will let you be and figure things out on your own and if you fall she will always be around to hold you.
SHE RAISES AWARENESS OF THE VALUE OF GOOD EDUCATION
Beauty or good looks doesn’t last long, what matters is the inner qualities that one possesses. A strongmother irrespective of whether you’re a boy or a girl will want you to be well educated to not only earn your own living independently but to live with respect. Education earns us confidence and hence the strength to overcome any sort of harassment.
SHE PUSHES YOU TO COMPETE WITH YOURSELF AND NOT AGAINST OTHERS
How we really get to the top is not by pulling someone else down but by learning from our own mistakes and trying to override them in time. Setting a goal for oneself and aiming to reach it is what will better us. Instead of trying to get better at what somebody else is better at, one must nurture their potentials and mend their flaws – is what a strongmother will teach her children.
SHE PROMOTES MONETARY INDEPENDENCE
From a very young age the mother will explain to her children the value of money. She knows how she has struggled to earn every penny and hence she wants her children to start young and understand the value of hard earned money, themselves. Self sufficiency is what her children will learn.
SHE ENCOURAGES YOU TO LOVE YOURSELF
Every individual is unique and you don’t have to be like anybody else – she will tell you. She will teach you to value yourself irrespective of your physical appearance or your character. She will let you choose your clothes, your subjects and even your partner. Every individual is special in some way or the other and have varying preferences. What one must do is realise the speciality in oneself and nurture it.
SHE COACHES YOU ON HUMANITARIANISM
Being a good human being is important along with being a self made and confident human being, according to the mother. Being kind to people will fetch happiness but one must not be vulnerable. One has to have the wit and understanding to know when to bend and when to stand erect, and all this comes from experience. However, she will tell you that what matters is, you shouldn’t harm anybody.
SHE INDUCES EMOTIONAL INDEPENDENCE
Your strongmother will tell you how being overwhelmed with emotions can cease your wit. It is necessary to maintain a hold on one’s emotions to take control of one’s life. Getting too emotionally dependent on another individual will not only cause self harm but also burden the other person with too much emotional pressure, provided they genuinely care.
SHE MAKES KNOWN TO YOU THE IMPORTANCE OF ALL KINDS OF RELATIONS
She will tell you how important it is to form a large network and be in friendly terms with as many people as you can and not create any sort of a rift or strife, to maintain personal well being and happiness. Also creating a loving bond from at least your side, between immediate family members is essential.
SHE MOTIVATES YOU EITHER TO MAKE CHANGE OR ADAPT
If you can’t contribute to any kind of a shift in circumstances then you better adapt instead of revolting and bringing trouble for yourself is what the strongmother has learnt and will instil in her children. Survival of the fittest is the truest phrase that exists, according to her. Instead of complaining and sulking about something you can’t alter, work hard and make it possible for you to overcome the difficulties.
If you are born to a strongmother then you are a blessed individual. Appreciate and honour your parents for what they inculcate in you. A strong mother is a perfect guide, a dear friend and a steady companion.