The home of your mind and spirit is you. It is you who bring solace to them. But very often we under value our existence and feel that we are unimportant. Such feelings often lead to self-destructive behaviors and we eventually the biggest conflict we land up in is with our own self. Lack of self-respect and a never ending habit of looking down on oneself is a serious problem. You will find yourself battling your emotions that are constantly trying to fill you with negative vibes. The good news is that you have all the means to rescue yourself out of this mode. Here are ten simple steps that you need to follow in order to learn how to respect yourself.
Stand up for what you believe in
Every person has some beliefs and ideologies in life, so do you. You need to be confident about your beliefs. If you think somebody is trying to put you down referring to your choices in life and their arguments are bothering you, don’t keep quiet. Be bold and speak for yourself. Don’t get tied down by thoughts that what people might think or say about you. It doesn’t matter. What matters is how you put your point across in dignity and care about your honor and beliefs. So stand up for what you believe in.
Follow Your Gut
Very few people have the courage to do what their heart says. People easily get influenced by other’s suggestions and opinions and they instantly alter their choices. This simply means you are killing your instincts and not doing what you exactly want to do. The fear of failure is often found the reason behind this. The approach you need to have is that you are not afraid of facing the consequences, whether it works out or not, it’s no big deal. At least at the end of the day, you won’t be blaming others for missing out on an opportunity or a fruitful experience. So, follow your gut and believe in yourself.
Be Positive About Yourself
Sometimes, you become your biggest enemy. All you do throughout your day is count your flaws and nag about them. Always being in a complaining mode about yourself is the beginning of self-esteem issues. You should always talk positive about yourself and never underestimate your talents or inner reflection.
Become your own best friend
Do yourself a favor and from today onwards know for a fact that you are your own best friend. Your mind and spirit was with you in all your problems in life and will always be with you in future too. You need to shower some love upon yourself and maybe reward with some surprises too. If you have done something kind or fruitful, give yourself a pat on your back or buy some flowers and treat yourself. You will not only feel good but will also have a feeling of accomplishment.
As everyone commits some mistakes, you must be having your own list too. Write down the things you feel you are sorry for and for once and for all end the matter. If you are guilty, then be sorry and then forgive yourself. Making mistakes are a part of learning new things in life and you must learn to forgive yourself. Otherwise, the guilt for things will keep piling and you will turn into an apology stricken specimen.
Spending time with yourself can we rewarding. As it is rightly said that solitude brings wisdom to a man, you must take some time out for yourself. Go for a walk or a run, put on some music and enjoy the scenery.
Being grateful for your surrounding can manifest good feelings in you. Hence, it is important that you have a sense of obligation for that all the good things in life whether little or big. When you wake up in the morning, the first thing that you should is thank the universe for five things around you that you are thankful for.
Love every inch of your being
No matter what shape, size or color you are, you are unique and there is nobody on the planet who can be the best version of you. You must know you are irreplaceable and that in itself is the most wonderful thing. You always have scope for improvement but you must acknowledge and feel great about every inch of your existence.
Be proud of your flaws
There doesn’t exist a single one who has no flaws. We all are adorned with multiple flaws and that’s what makes humans extra ordinary. The best part about flaws is they keep you going. Imagine you are perfect and everything you do is right. How boring isn’t it? It’s so much better to be flawed than to be a depiction of what the society thinks is perfect. Be proud!
Believe that you are a miracle
You still have a doubt you are not a miracle? The reality and truth that you are a part of this wonderful thing called life is in itself a miracle. Isn’t it?
So, these were ten ways you can uplift your confidence by recognizing your worth and having self respect.
Ashwathi is an enthusiastic traveller and dancer with a passion for movies and music. Hailing from an Army background, she considers herself fortunate enough to have experienced the diverse cultures that India boasts of. She is a graduate in Journalism and Mass Communications and has worked in print, radio and television.