We are generally accepting of the flaws of the ones we love, but there are times, when the flaws may exceed the virtues, and that is when the person concerned will cease to deserve the entitlement of a good human being. Let’s find out if we have been in love with a guy who is more virtuous than flawed?
HE ACTUALLY IS YOUR BOYFRIEND AND DOESN’T MIND BEING ADDRESSED AS SO
If you consider him your boyfriend and are going out of your way to treat him like one, but he won’t allow you to address him as your boyfriend around people then girl let me tell you you’re in deep trouble. If he really is your boyfriend he will proudly claim it with confidence.
YOU FEEL YOU’RE FORTUNATE TO HAVE HIM
You feel comfortable taking him home to meet your parents or introducing him to other important people in your life, because you know he can handle it with ease. A good boyfriend will want to get to know the people you love and are liked back by the ones who care about you. You don’t have to apologise on his behalf before your loved ones to defend him. He’ll make you see what it feels like to date a gentleman.
HE HAS HAD TO WORK HARD TO GET WHERE HE IS
A responsible man makes for a responsible and good boyfriend when relationships are concerned. He hasn’t gotten things easily in life; he has had to take pain and make efforts in reaching whatever position he is in. He hasn’t been a spoilt child, who grew up with constant parental backing.
HE IS A SON TO HAPPY PARENTS
His parents proclaim how understanding and adaptive he is, even though he isn’t perfect. When a man has the capacity to keep his parents happy, having been empathetic and understanding, know that he has potential to keep you happy as well.
HE KNOWS HIS PRIORITIES AND TRIES TO BALANCE
A good boyfriend isn’t selfish. He has his priorities in place, so that he doesn’t make you feel unwanted or insecure because he ends up spending too much of his time with his friends. He knows how to maintain a balance, and makes sure not to cause hurt to the ones he values; be it his parents or his girlfriend.
HE KNOWS HOW TO FIGHT
He doesn’t shy away from difficult situations in life. He will stand to face and efface the problems, whether issues relating to family, work, friends or other things. When you see a guy who has the courage to face issues in life, you can take for granted that he won’t be the type to run away when issues arise in your relationship. Being the kind of person he is, he will not let go too easily. A good boyfriend has the patience and courage to fight through troublesome situations. He doesn’t desert you or fight to win. He fights for the both of you.
HE HAS ENORMOUS CONFIDENCE IN HIMSELF AND WANTS TO KEEP IMPROVING
He is confident and proud because he knows how to fix his own things, so he doesn’t need his partner to keep nagging him like a mother to do this and that. He doesn’t need to be taken responsibility for. He is persistently striving to improve himself, so that he knows how to look after himself and handle any kind of pressure in a relationship as well.
YOU FIND IT EASY TO TRUST HIM
If you’re a woman, trust your intuitions, for they rarely lie to you. When your gut says that you cannot trust a particular man, believe it. When you don’t have to defend your boyfriend to your intuitions or gut feelings, know that you’re indeed with a good person.
HE CAN KEEP HIS EMOTIONS IN CONTROL
This isn’t to say that your man doesn’t have emotions but it is just that, he knows how to keep them in check. He won’t get uncontrollably jealous when another man gives you attention, and blame you or your clothes for it. A good boyfriend knows the importance of space and won’t charge you for not texting him throughout the day or scream at you for being a little late. He is a grown man and knows to differentiate between right and wrong. He won’t let his emotions run wild and cause trouble for you.
HE IS NOT VERY DIFFICULT TO PLEASE
You know that your boyfriend is worthy of being in a relationship with, when he focuses on the positives in the relationship, instead of complaining about what could’ve been better in it or how certain things bother him. Even when difficulties arise, he will stay to fix it instead of eloping. He will be grateful to you for how much love you give him and how much pleasure the relationship brings to him.
HE LAUGHS AND EMANATES POSITIVE VIBES
He knows how to lighten the mood up when things aren’t at their best. He believes in living an optimistic life and doing away with feelings or thoughts that bring unhappiness. He won’t sit at the restaurant with you and sulk because he is upset about something that happened between the two of you last night. He would’ve talked things out with you and made up by the time you guys see each other, because he knows that that’s the right thing to do.
HE WON’T BLAME YOU FOR THE ISSUES THAT ARISE IN THE RELATIONSHIP
A good boyfriend will not victimise you and make you feel responsible for any kind of misunderstanding or dispute that arises between the two of you. He won’t make you feel bad about yourself saying things like, he has wasted all the time he spent being in a relationship with you or that, he has done everything he could for you and yet you haven’t acknowledged any of it, only because he wants you to do things his way. He must love you for who you are and respect you more than anything else.
YOU DON’T REQUIRE TELLING HIM WHAT TO DO
You can’t force him to make you feel the way you want to. We often trap ourselves in unhealthy relationships, believing that we can fix the people we love and turn them into somebody we want them to be. A good mate will know what to do to make you feel happy and special, you don’t have to badger him to text you a ‘goodnight’ message before going to bed; it doesn’t matter if you haven’t texted throughout the day, but a ‘goodnight’ message is important to you – which he understands.
If more than five of the above signifiers of a good boyfriend don’t complement your own boyfriend then ladies it’s high time that you take a firm decision. If you can be a mature and understanding human being then you deserve somebody who will be the same. Life is too short to spend time trying and hoping for someone to change. Would you rather buy a dress a size larger than your own and then get it altered or buy the right size itself, when there isn’t a dearth of choices?