Well, sex isn’t the only way of connecting with your partner on the auspicious occasion of the wedding night. There are other extremely wonderful ways to set the mood right and feel a connection that should be able to create memories and leave a lasting impression in both your minds.
Here are ways to make your wedding night special:
TEASE EACH OTHER
Make sure to pay not so much attention to each other on the day of the wedding, so that the night is filled with anticipation. Let the eyes meet occasionally and steal a few glances. Tease your partner with sporadic touches and withdraw when they reciprocate. Let the heat cumulate so that it may release itself at night in full immensity.
FILL YOUR ROOM WITH AROMATIC SCENTS
Good fragrance carries the potential to stimulate memories, emotions and put you in the right mood so that you feel rejuvenated and enlivened. Scents like Lavender, Sandalwood and the aroma of peppermint have the potential to increase arousal.
LET HIM CARRY YOU INTO THE ROOM OR YOUR HOUSE
Allow him to carry you inside in his arms and then give each other a foot massage before lying down next to each other and engaging in a light conversation, perhaps.
SET THE NIGHT TO MUSIC
Compile some of both of you all’s favourite tunes in a CD or a drive and play it on the background. You might also want to compile a video from beforehand right from the time of wedding shopping to preparing for the event, which you can play on the night of your wedding.
PUT ON SOMETHING SEXY
You don’t really have to take that sexy lingerie off now, but you can at least look and feel good in a nice sultry piece. You could both put a teeny weenie little effort into being a treat to one another’s eyes.
LET HIM KNOW HOW MUCH HE MEANS TO YOU THROUGH A LOVE LIST
Make a list of the qualities and the traits in your partner that you like. You might either want to write it down or record yourself saying it live on a CD. Along with listing the qualities, also list those quirks in him which make you laugh and at the end tell him how you would love to spend the rest of your life with him and why you took such a decision in the first place.
FEED EACH OTHER
Treat each other to snacks and knick knacks that have the potential to induce arousal. You don’t have to go all the way and have sex, and exhaust yourselves out further after an eventful day, but who says you can’t feel a little sexually attracted to your partner on the night of the wedding and get intimate without going all the way?
Enjoy feeding each other snacks like strawberries, dark chocolate and other such stuff that will augment sexual stimulation.
PLAY NAUGHTY GAMES TO TURN HIM ON
Tease your partner into desiring you. Blindfold him and drizzle a few drops of chocolate sauce, honey or caramel on any part of your body and then ask your partner to find it. This can be an extremely fun game to play with your partner on the night of your wedding. Remember to change roles.
GIVE EACH OTHER EROTIC MASSAGES
Grant each other an amazingly erotic massage without getting into sex and provided both of you are too tired to tend to one another, book yourselves masseurs for the night and have yourselves get a nice soothing and relaxing massage for the night.
GO BACK TO LIVING YOUR FIRST TIME
Your wedding night might not be the first time that you would be spending an intimate moment with your partner. You both might have in fact engaged in sexual intimacy way prior to your wedding night. So what you could do, instead of having sex is to reminisce about your first time. Talk about it perhaps or set a similar situation and each of you write down what exactly had happened on that very night/day and read your journals out loud to one another.
LIGHTS ADD TO THE AMBIENCE
Make sure the room you are going to spend your night in isn’t brightly lit but filled with dim shades of light. The shades of blue, orange and red are ideal in order to set a romantic mood. Breathe the varying colours in while you stay up talking to, and admiring one another.
LEAVE SOMETHING SEXY ON THE BED
It could simply be petals of red roses, or a pair of new boxers that you got for your partner and can’t wait to see him in. Your partner could do something similar. He could get you sexy lingerie and leave them on the bed for you to try on, on the night of your wedding.
ROMANCE IN THE TUB
Enjoy an exotic bath. Prepare a hot or cold bath, according to your fancy. Fill the tub with rose petals, aromatic oils and place candles all around it to allow for the lights to play their tricks into setting up the mood. You might also want to keep a glass of wine each just next to you, which you can sip on once in a while. Play some music on the background if you’d like.
RELAX AND DON’T STRESS OVER IT
Cuddle with each other, talk, relax and let go. All you can do is spend the night chatting with each other, flirting with each other. You could make love but abstain from sex and still enjoy every bit of the wedding night, just in each other’s company.
PLAY THE GAME OF A TREASURE HUNT
You could play this delightful little game with your partner, where you hide certain items such as a bottle of wine, a love note, the clothes and lingerie you were wearing, which would all be finally leading to you in an inviting position or situation.
REMINISCE PAST MOMENTS
Bring out letters you gave to each other, back when y’all were dating and read them out, stress especially on the parts that are funny. You could also adorn the room with both of your pictures from various moments you’ve spent together; moments that have made beautiful memories. All of this will help you in reminiscing the past days and you’ll feel happier than ever to realise that you’re finally married to the person you’ve spent such wonderful moments with.
EXTEND IT TO THE MORNING
Enjoy your wedding night, being all romantic and lovey-dovey, falling asleep in one another’s arm, until the morning arrives. Don’t leave the bed. Extend your wedding night onto the next morning and maybe enjoy a session of sexual intimacy then. Let not the morning, take away the charm from last night but carry it within itself.
These are a few ways you can make your wedding night special, without typically resorting to sex. We hope these will help you to weave out a memorable wedding night for yourself and your spouse. Let us know how it goes for you and if you feel that this post has been of any help to you. Leave your comments in the section below.