Sex is not just about the union of two bodies, but also creating an ambience where you are left with more desires and longings. You are almost into the exciting moment with your partner, when consciously or unconsciously you pass a remark that spoils the entire mood of engaging into sex. Well, you might be frank with your significant other and as such you do not hesitate to speak whatever comes to your mind, but the situation doesn’t favor always.Words are strong weapons and have the power to both moralize and demoralize you as well.
When it comes to sex, passion and pleasure should be wrapped up beautifully, and hence there are certain things which you should never say while having sex. Are both of you the victim and victimizer of engaging into comments that instantly kills the mood for sex? Scroll down through all the remarks listed below and avoid using them for a blissful sex life.
I AM UNDER MEDICAL CARE
We all do have health issues, but it’s not necessary to make an announcement of it just at the spiced up moment of having sex. The very fact that you are on a treatment might be a thing to be worried about. But at the same time it will spoil up your partner’s mood as well. Therefore, its better that you turn up clarified with whatever health concerns you have before you jump into the bed with your partner.
NOT NOW JUST WAIT. LET MY PARTNER FIND OUT THE TRUTH FIRST
This is said when you are trying to hook up with a so called “third person” instead your real partner being aware of it. Since, you have the fear at the back of your mind to be portrayed as a guilty person because of your illegitimate affair you are not in that zealous state to forge sex least the real “you” will get caught of cheating. Moreover, it also means that since its just all about getting laid on bed “my so called new partner” should wait for the right time.
AWW! I CAN NO LONGER wait to HAVE A BABY
Well, don’t you think that this remark is a bit too crazy and fast in motion? Of course, it’s your life and you are free to make decisions. But seriously a baby? If you are dating your partner for a couple of years, and are yet unsure about how to keep the relationship stronger, then never ever dare to attempt this kind of a wish. Leave the matter right there itself, without stretching it.
OMG! I GUESS THE CONDOM BROKE
Suppose everything is going on in smoothly between you and your partner, this remark will nevertheless lead to an oops moment while you are too busy warming your bed. Whosoever will pass this remark, whether its you or your partner, the memorization of the sensual, romantic, and erotic sex you just had a moment ago will be totally cleaned off. So, think twice before saying this!
I AM SURE OUR BABY WILL HAVE LOVELY FEATURES JUST LIKE YOU
Another instant sex killing mood is to speak of an imaginary baby out of the blues. This is undoubtedly a disgusting and unpleasant time of a future family planning which no one wishes to eavesdrop in between the bed sheets. Moreover, the worst part will be to carry forward with this remark in particular when you hardly even know each other.
WHAT’S YOUR OPINION ON MARRIAGE?
A proposal of getting married just before you are about to spice up your bed? Like really? If you do not know the person with whom you are with at the present moment, then this remark is utterly weird. On the other hand, if you know each other for years and are yet unsure what will the future look like and yet you want to take pleasure in each other’s arms then it’s a kind of a complete release into the pitfall. However, if you love the person and think that it’s the right time, then you may go ahead with your marriage proposal after humping.
SORRY, WHAT’S YOUR NAME AGAIN?
Whatever the situation is, with this remark you are only inviting “AN END” to your sexy time hour and cozy affair. If your partner takes everything very casually so much so that he doesn’t even bother to pay a satisfactory concentration in either knowing you or your name, it’s a sign that your relationship wont work out well. On the other hand, if you are the one who fails to remember his name utilize a good habit of addressing him with affectionate names of fondness and love. Till then keep practicing to learn his real name in secret.
IS YOUR PENIS SIZE NORMAL?
Girls now please be attentive! I know you have lots of desires and expectations from your partner but you need to hold yourself back before uttering this remark. Do not intermix your over excitement when it comes to having an oral sex with your partner. Men are out and out sensitive when it comes to their penis size. Just a slight remark might spoil up all the fun. So its better that you derive pleasure from him in every sense of the term without complaining or judging.
SHHH… STOP MOANING! MY FAMILY MEMBERS ARE IN THE NEXT ROOM
The end result of this remark will be your partner getting all angry and leaving the room with a loud bang on the door. If you were dying to have sex,then why did you choose your residence in spite of knowing that your family members are present? If you want to keep it private go to a hotel or wait for the right time.
HOW LONG SHALL IT TAKE?
The bedchamber should be a dedicated and cherished zone, where you can allow your body to control you. Hence, it is not under any condition pleasurable and polite enough to query the approximated time of advent of an orgasm. So, do not use this remark until and unless you are in a hurry to give a break to your partner.
I HAVE TO ATTEND THIS PHONE CALL ANYHOW
Supposedly it’s the perfect ambience, and the room gets heated up with warmth and tenderness. You are drawing close to your partner when sadly enough the phone goes ringing, and your partner leaves you in the room all alone to attend the call. Speechless isn’t? This is so unfair!
HOLD ON! LET’S TAKE A SELFIE FIRST
Taking a selfie even when you are being cozy with your partner is a bit too much. If your lovemaking gets delayed or rather discontinues because your partner wishes to post the drawing power of you both on a social networking site, then remember you are sleeping with a pervert. Either your partner should turn off all the gadgets and solely concentrate on you, or else he will keep on tossing and turning in the bed till he gets the cell phone in his hand.
LEAVE IT. I CAN PLEASURE MYSELF ALL BY MY OWN
It actually takes a lot of courage while having sex, especially if it’s for the first time. The phrase “I can give pleasure to myself” is not only a mood dropper, but it also kills the boldness in the bedroom. As we all know that engaging into masturbation can be amazing previous to sex, but then it can turn off your mood if your partner determines to masturbate all by themselves on the grounds that they are not fulfilled by you.
ALRIGHT I’M OFF TO SLEEP, wake ME up ONCE YOU ARE DONE
Sex is all about passion, and hence the reciprocation should be mutual. If either of you simply lies down on the bed and takes a snore, while the other leaves no stone unturned to give you pleasure the invisible line of creating a distance between you both is already being created. This will undoubtedly kill the sex mood.
BY ALL MEANS MY EX
Another instant mode of killing your sex drive is when your partner repeatedly spells their ex’s name over and over again, even while you are in a deep passionate state. This is a clear indication that your partner is still emotionally attached to the so called “ex”. On the other hand, if your partner is obsessed with a celebrity make sure that their names aren’t used when you both are trying to get intimate. Or else it’s a warning to stop the sex then and there itself.
EXCUSE ME! WHAT’S THAT?
If in the middle of your sex, you pass this remark to your partner while denoting to their genitals as outsized, incomparable, disfigured this will instantly kill the mood. It’s okay if you haven’t seen them before. But whatsoever the justifications are, it’s absolutely ill-mannered to utter this straightaway especially when your partner’s private parts are in exposed. The best remedy is to keep silent.
CAN YOU BELIEVE I’M STILL A VIRGIN!
Until and unless your partner already knows from before that you are a vestal virgin, make sure that all of a sudden you don’t impose a burden on them in order to make your first sex fortunate. However, if your partner is remarking this make a rapid conclusion regarding whether or not you want that kind of a charge to be emerging overhead as you are bending away.
GIVE ME A SECOND. LET ME TAKE OFF MY TAMPON
Choices and preferences varies from person to person and so does one’s likes and dislikes. As a girl you will have your periods but then you cannot resist yourself to hit inside the bed sheets with your partner. There might be few exceptional cases where as a couple you both would love to get drown into the sea tide of sanguine fluid. But then if not, this remark will straightaway wipe out the mood.
MY EX GIRLFRIEND OR BOYFRIEND USED TO….
When you are trying to get intimate with your partner, talking about your ex will without further escalate doubts and spoil the mood immediately. I mean why to involve your ex when it’s already a past right? If your partner thoroughly speaks of his ex in front of you its high time when you should think twice before continuing the relationship with him.
IS THIS THING IN THE LEAD?
If somehow you make this remark during the time while touching against the dick remember for sure that it’s your final sex night. It might seem quite sexier when you tend to fancy it, but if paid a close attention like many other things running in your head, it isn’t that great as thought of before.
WHERE’S THE HOLE ? I CAN’T SEE IT!
I know you are excited when it comes to sex, but make sure you don’t utter stupid remarks which will make the impression undoubtedly wrong. When you are engaged into sexual activity and suddenly out of the blue you start screaming “where’s the hole?” don’t you think its awful? Instead of whooping, look for it and try and feel it until and unless you are fumbling inside the dark to turn over to give oral.
Therefore, try learning to say “NO” to the above remarks, if you really want to spice up your sex life, without killing the mood of your significant other.
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