4 Signs you have had sex but not an orgasm!

It’s a common practice where sex is had between a man and woman and it is over as soon as the man reaches his climax. Why so? If sex can be had for as long as a man doesn’t reach his climax, it is also to be had for as long as a woman doesn’t reach hers. You’re not enjoying it unless you’re being able to orgasm no matter how much you claim to have enjoyed your sex without finishing it.

4 Signs you have had sex but not an orgasm!

There is something wrong if you’re not being able to orgasm and it is important that your partner isn’t doing anything wrong to prevent you from being able to. Both you and your partner must show enough concern to your being able to participate in the encounter equally as he is being able to. Sex is a two way process and this you must remember. Sex is not a way of pleasuring your man but it’s a way of connecting with your man; a connection which should bring satisfaction and enjoyment to both.

If you are being deprived of the satisfaction achieved out of an orgasm, then here are a few things you and partner should look into:

YOU CAN’T WAIT TO GET OVER WITH IT

Having sex just to please your man can leave you feeling unsatisfied with the sex altogether because when you don’t feel the desire to do it, you can’t get an orgasm. Each time he asks to be all over you, you agree very reluctantly, because you know that the sex is not good. He doesn’t please you the way you’d like him to. He is either too boring or maybe to kinky for you to get in the feel, so you just want to get over with it, as soon as you can.

But you know what? Having sex without being able to orgasm is as bad as not having sex. If you really choose to have sex, make sure you enjoy and feel good about it. You could try and talk to your partner about how he could do things better in order to get you to climax, because you being able to climax is as much important as your husband or your partner being able to climax for a fulfilling session of intimacy. Ask him to go slow, talk to you, and use certain toys perhaps that could turn you on or even try and set up a romantic atmosphere by using lights, fragrance, and background music and so on. Get in the mood before you get in the bed.

YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW IT’S DONE

4 Signs you have had sex but not an orgasm!

You need to be able to pleasure yourself. Use whatever does the job for you. It could be a vibrator, a dildo, a lipstick case, or a multi-purpose pendant, whichever suits you.

But you must learn to put to use a few of these to reach an orgasm for the times your partner isn’t available, or it doesn’t even matter provided he is. You could show him how you pleasure yourself so that he can take cues from you as to how to do you better, in order to make you come, the next time.

Doing yourself right in front of your partner will not just bring you to climax but will also be a treat to his eyes and turn him on better. Since men take a shorter span of time to get in the groove and women take a longer time to both get in the groove and get out of it. So you might as well orgasm first and then enjoy a nice quickie with your partner. This should bring ample pleasure to the both of you.

IT TAKES WAY TOO LONG

4 Signs you have had sex but not an orgasm!

As mentioned in the previous point and as we all know, women take a longer time to get aroused, than men and an even longer time to get back to normal but for men it is more or less, a quick procedure.

Hence, have the patience and your partner must show patience as well when it comes your getting off. He in fact will take time to arouse you well because he seeks to have you orgasm, as it makes him feel good about himself and satisfies his male ego. However if the man being your husband or your boyfriend is in love with you will want to have you come, and do the needful in order to get you to, with even more enthusiasm than the one who is just hooking up with you.

Both of you will learn the best ways to bring about a climax in each other as you go. For men it might be slightly easier to climax but women too can easily reach an orgasm provided both the partners show a bout of patience.

YOU CAN’T COME FROM INTERCOURSE

4 Signs you have had sex but not an orgasm!

Often, only sex might not help you reach your climax, while it may help a guy reach his. But isn’t it as important for a girl to reach her climax as much as it is for a guy to reach his, in order to enjoy a pleasurable sexual encounter?

It is very important that a woman feels special, attractive and important in the presence of a man, to be able to get off to him and the man who basically adores her will in fact put all the effort into making her feel wanted, and take as much time as it requires to stimulate her, not only because it satiates his male ego but it makes him happy to be able to pleasure his woman.

He will give her more than just sex. He will engage in a good foreplay because he wants to touch his woman in various ways. The sex is nothing if it’s not with her. So what matters is building an intimacy with this particular woman and hence touching her feels wonderful. He won’t just stop at sex, or after he has reached his climax, he will carry on stimulating her until she feels satisfied with the whole session.

These are a few things you and your man ought to keep in mind when it comes to sex and being able to orgasm. Your man must respect you enough and love you enough to be able to understand what works for you and what doesn’t and if your man doesn’t care about what works for you but gets done as soon as he jacks off, then it’s time you make your worth known to him. It’s not just about sexual pleasure but it’s about being considerate of another’s feelings and sentiments.

Which is why, reaching an orgasm is as essential for you as it is for your man in order to enjoy your sex. Don’t deny yourself the pleasure of it.

Are you being deprived of a rightfully deserved orgasm after a sexual encounter with your husband or boyfriend or whoever be it? Have you been able to counter this issue? If you haven’t then this list here tells you as to what could be the issues that are preventing you from finishing and also provides you a solution to your problems. Do let us know if this comes of any help, in the comments section below.


  

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