John Lennon once said, “We live in a world where we have to hide to make love, while violence is practiced in broad daylight.” No, I’m not asking you to rebel against society. I am just trying to tell you about the society we all are brought up in. It’s because of this that sex is such a taboo to talk about no matter what the circumstances. It’s another reason why girls are so confused about how to ask for sex even in a committed relationship. In the long run, we have forgotten that females are as human as males and they too have needs just like males. The society believes that it is okay for a guy to want sex but it is strict no if a girl feels the same. To be honest there are far important topics we can focus on rather than what two people want to do in their life. So if you believe the same here are some easy ways to tell your boyfriend you want to have sex.
Spice it up on chat
If you are the shy type and don’t wanna tell it out loud, you have technology to your rescue. If you feel like getting naughty tonight you can start from texting him a sexy picture of you. If you don’t wanna do that text her what are you wearing right now in detail. You can also send him a picture in your finest lingerie to give a clear idea of what you expect from him when he comes home tonight. Guys easily sense sexual desires but are sometimes too confused to act on it. These messages would not only tell him what you want but also turn him on for the night.
Drop subtle hints when you are alone
So you are alone or out for a romantic dinner and you feel that you really want to get some tonight and don’t want to leave it on him. You can start by dropping subtle hints; looking at him seductively between bites, talk about sex between celebrities etc. This would at least start giving him an idea of what you want from him. While you are returning touch him frequently and let it linger a little more than usual. Stop the conversation in between and hold his gaze and when he asks just smile and move ahead. It’s more of showing your intentions rather than telling him and it will work.
Use a code word between you two
If you have been in a relationship for some time and you both are uncomfortable to get the sex topic out, it may lead to dissatisfaction in the relationship. So, the best way is to use a code word which you both can use whenever one of you feel like doing it. This has a huge advantage because then you can communicate your sexual desires even in a crowded room. It could be ‘I wanna have coffee”, “I have to get the laundry” etc. Use something that is not too weird and can be used in day to day life. This way you both can get what you want and it won’t be awkward too.
Take charge and lead
You both are home alone in each other’s arms watching some movie when you feel like doing it. You can start by rubbing his thighs, moving closer and kissing him. There is nothing sexier than a lady taking the lead to start sex (at least for most men). Guys have started accepting you as their equals and they really like it when it’s not always them asking for sex. Sometimes this one-sided interest leads to boring sex. So don’t worry and spice it up by taking charge.
Ask him directly
You can do this in many ways but there is it’s really sexy when a girl knows exactly what she wants and is not afraid to ask for it. As I stated before, that girls like sex as much as guys (maybe a little less) and it’s the 21st century. So stop beating around the bush and ask him directly if he would like to do it. It may sound blunt but you’ll be amazed how comfortable it makes things between you both for the future.
These are some of the easiest ways to tell your boyfriend/spouse you want to have sex. If you have some ideas please do share in the comment section below.
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