Due to the ’50 Shades of Grey’ movie everybody is talking about the erotic practice described in the book and fascinated by it. There is talk of BDSM – Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism. But what is BDSM really about?
BDSM involves different practices like roleplaying, dominance and submission, restraint and others. But they are not all about pain, like most people think, only sadomasochism specifically requires pain. The different practices of BDSM include the sensations inherited by different emotions of the mind and dominance and submission are about the exchange of Powers.
These plays while the practitioners act out their fantasies are so stimulating that they lead to an orgasm explosion. In 50 Shades of Grey this BDSM lifestyle is displayed in the following way. The man hold sway over the woman. The movie publicize a lifestyle what does not apply to the rise of women in society and their independence and self determination. The movie shows just little sectors of BDSM but depicts that it is not just lived out in a sexual way but also in everyday life.
Christian Grey tells Ana which car she has to drive, what clothes she has to wear, how often she has to work out, how much meals she is allowed to eat per day, how many hours she has to sleep each night, how much alcohol she is allowed to drink, how many hours a week she has to spend with him and he sends her to the cosmetics treatment when he thinks it is time for her to go there.
The man cares for the woman and decides everything for her. So why females all over the world are “out of their mind” due to the story of the submissive Ana? It is not like women want to be otherdirected or spanked by their partner when they have sex. It is just the tension of the unknown which primes their fantasies and in fantasy they are never awkward, they are always directing what is happening. Most women with BDSM or smiliar thoughts would never admit one of those situations but due to the fact that their sexual wants don’t play a big role in public and that it is still a no go, more or less, to talk about their needs it is a way to run free sexual fantasies when the man controls the situation. And it is important to add that BDSM is not about fear like as suggested in the movie. Everything happens by mutual agreement and if the sub (submissive part) does not enjoy it anymore the dominant part stops.
Another article on the movie release of “50 Shades if Grey” is here.
Mandy is a marketing coordinator in Berlin, Germany. After graduating in Business Administration she studies International Business. For years she has been writing now, mainly focusing on sports and fashion. Her pieces have been published on websites and blogs . As a confident, independent woman she now combines this passion with her love for fashion, lifestyle and beauty and supports the tribute of women’ equality. "Every woman all over the world should live self-paced and should be conscious of her own worth and beauty at all levels", she thinks.