Each of our lives, are beautiful in their own solely wondrous ways. Let us then learn to accept the beautiful life we have been gifted with.
Recognize, accept and demolish one of the most common disorders of our times – Facebook jealousy, by simply following these means:
MAKE THE ACCESS DIFFICULT
Most of the times we mindlessly enter into the social media the moment we find some free time. We’re not even thinking, we’re just functioning out of habit.
Hence it is important that the access to the social media (such as Facebook) is made difficult, so that the action isn’t passive but proactive, on which our mind will then have some control.
An instance of how to make it work:
What we could do is, delete the apps from our phones and instead log into the desired social platforms through the internet – a more long drawn process.
RECOGNIZE THE SPECIFIC SOURCE OF JEALOUSY
Have you tried to identify the exact stuff that bothers you? If not then do it right away!
Is it the ‘oh-so-happy’ couple that posts loveable photos constantly or is it your exceptionally rich friend who keeps travelling around the world, has a beautiful house, cool parents and an amazing boyfriend?
Whatever be the source of your feelings of envy, block them out. Hide the notifications from these particular lists of people and live in peace. You could even un-friend them, provided they aren’t close friends.
PERFORM A GRATITUDE MEDITATION
What is a gratitude meditation?
A gratitude meditation according to study is like an acknowledgement to life for whatever it has provided you with. Be happy because of what you have instead of being upset for what you don’t.
Ponder upon everything nice that you have been blessed with; a home, understanding parents, good looks, a best friend, a regular job, which you may have taken for granted by now.
Ever wondered about those people who don’t even have one fourth of what you possess? Some don’t have a job, or a home and worse still, some don’t even have parents.
Just know that you are blessed!
SET YOUR OWN GOALS AND ACHIEVE THEM
Don’t be jealous of other people’s success. Achieve your own success by setting up a goal for yourself. Try to look ahead of time at the goal you’d like to achieve and work towards it
And nothing will be able to beat the happiness you achieve out of attaining that goal, not even other people’s success.
It could be something as simple as publishing your own novel; however it could mean much more to you than the second promotion your friend on Facebook got at work.
COMPARISONS ARE MEANINGLESS
You can’t compare your life to somebody else’s life. Just like I mentioned above, what is important to you may not be as important to somebody else and vice-versa.
What is rather more important is how happy you are and what is/are those things that make you happy.
Yes, someone might be really happy back in Miami strutting around in a sexy swimsuit but “hey!” do you really want to be in Miami right now doing the same? Or do you want to feel happy?
If your happiness does not reside in going to Miami and wearing a bikini, then why bother wasting your time and emotions over something you DO NOT EVEN WANT, my love?
LIVE IN THE REAL LIFE
Life on Facebook is so much different to real life, just like the edited version of your friend’s profile picture, where she looks so much skinnier, or let’s say, so much happier than she truly is in real life.
Virtual media can be very deceptive.
This seemingly rich friend of yours might look perfectly satisfied and happy with their life on the social media, with a big house, two gorgeous cars, etc. However on meeting them you might just come to know about how their loved one is suffering from a debilitating disease and is under therapy. Their life doesn’t seem all that attractive any longer, does it?
Or it could be something as superficial as the alignment of her teeth, you never even noticed on Facebook, while you thought she stole the show with perfect facial features and pretty blue eyes.
LEND A HELPING HAND TO OTHERS
According to research, helping others causes a mood lift in us. It makes us feel happy about ourselves, aiding in getting rid of the negative emotions of jealousy. It also makes us realise about the absence in other’s life, of those things that we have. It grants a feeling of satisfaction and gratefulness.
Are you suffering from Facebook jealousy? How do you counter this issue? Let us know in the comments section, below.
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