‘Some mature early in life, others never mature even as they age’
In our lives, we meet so many people of different age groups. Their decision makings, their choice of effects and their attitude towards life is different. Some of them sway us with their charm of articulating their surroundings. And interestingly, it has nothing to do with the age group they belong in. It isn’t true that maturity comes with age and you must have seen real-life examples in the form of your partner, friends, relatives or perhaps your colleagues at work.
Maturity is not Natural, It is a Choice
In the present scenario, maturity is a dangerous dive as people tend to focus only on short-term benefits. It is very important for people to know that maturity cannot be acquired, it can only be cultured. Here are few things that can help you cultivate maturity in your life.
Willingness to learn
Life is full of experiences. We can also put it up like ‘every day is an experience in itself’. Maturity dwells into your lives as you show a willingness to learn from your experiences.
Respecting differences of opinion
Maturity isn’t a natural consequence of growing up. You can achieve a mature outlook in your life if you master the art of respecting difference of sentiments. This will help you become flexible and adaptive in life. Also, you will be responding to your environment in a responsible manner.
Understanding and managing emotions
You will only be able to do this if you are non- judgmental and accept people the way they are. Once you know that you are not the only important person in a group and that other people have their own considerations and triggers, you will discipline the art of maturity in your life.
Taking responsibility for your happiness
You need to know that you are not the centre of this Universe and therefore, people are not going to make things work for you. You will have to take charge of your life, meaning that you owe your own box of happiness to yourself, by yourself. You need to define your own actions, set your own path to your success.
Capacity to endure uncertainty
This is the most important sign of maturity. How you handle a crisis says a lot about the level of your maturity. As we know life can play any card at any time, this doesn’t mean you lose out on your grip and become scattered. You must have the volume to deal with unexpected changes and deviations in life.
No excuses. Only changes
A mature person knows that nothing comes free in life. You have to work for the things you wish to have and therefore, making excuses shouldn’t be a part of your bucket list. You should be determined to make the necessary changes in order to achieve your goals.
Knowing when to stop arguing
A mature person knows where to put the full stop in an argument and jolly well knows that making comparisons is the worst thing to hurt your inner peace. Your reactions should be far-sighted and considered rather than being randomly impulsive.
Maturity is a discipline rather than an attribute. It is a sign of intelligence which can only be learned. Maturity will only come your way when you realise that the most important thing is the difference between being self-centered and being centered in yourself.
Some famous quotes on maturity:
‘Maturity is not when we start speaking big things; it is when we start understanding small things’
‘I used to walk into a room full of people and wonder if they liked me…now I look around and wonder if I like them’
‘Maturity is when we are content about being right about something rather than trying to prove someone else wrong’
Ashwathi is an enthusiastic traveller and dancer with a passion for movies and music. Hailing from an Army background, she considers herself fortunate enough to have experienced the diverse cultures that India boasts of. She is a graduate in Journalism and Mass Communications and has worked in print, radio and television.