You might have been finally planning to get involved in the bed with someone you have known for long and you intend to take your relationship a milestone forward. If this is not typically a one night stand for you, you might consider giving these things a thought:
Try appearing calm.
Surely, you don’t need to show you are a porn star in the making. Avoid going overboard with your enthusiasm to prove your dominance in the bed. You might have the knowledge of the all sex positions that you could get hold of on the Kamasutra, or that you have firsthand knowledge of them, but, give it a break with your new partner. In case, you do, you only give the impression of being sexually superior to the man which might as well get him all too intimidated. Quite obviously, he might bluntly come up with the question as to how many people you have slept with.
Trust me, no matter how much this man tells you he doesn’t care about your past relationships, he does!
That’s human nature. Your previous sexual engagements will bother anyone you share sparks with. You just do not need to explain you experience with all the guys you have been with. Remember, honesty doesn’t do you good all the time!
Guys love to dominate.
Let him do it the first night you spend time together. You will have all the time in the world to prove your skills, ladies! You might be a feminist in your own personal space. But this is a man’s world. Let things roll well first and then try proving how much you want to please him. They don’t say this for nothing: There is time for everything!
Women should receivemore than give on the first night.
There is science behind this too. They should appear shyer and give a boost to the man’s ego, prove how much he turns her on. A woman is compared to a flower who should open up slowly and gracefully in order to make a man feel good about his ability to invoke her sexuality.
You need not lie down like a corpse.
Appear engaging. Moan a little but do not scream. You do not need to fake things. Just partner him well.
All of us are imperfect.
The first time, things will be a little awkward. You haven’t seen him naked before, if you find things a bit out of the place, refrain from laughing out loud. You will only make him feel uncomfortable about his body. Just like you wouldn’t want to be laughed at, do not make fun of him. Tackle the situation confidently in order to make things tolerable.
Be affectionate. Care about his needs, but do not martyr yourself.
If you think the pain is unbearable, communicate it to him. If you keep quiet, he might as well try and do it with greater force thinking you are enjoying. The entire purpose is to feel good and not end up at the doctor’s clinic.
Born and brought up in India, Anushree's thoughts have been conditioned by a surrounding diverse in all aspects. She aspires to travel round the world and have a taste of the culture, food and music. Her Masters in Political Science has given her a reality check as to where India stands in enlightening its womenfolk. Writing gives her the freedom to materialize her ideas and allow people to sneak into her mind. She finds it fun and liberating.