Rejection is depressing. It leads to much despair and lack of self-confidence on our part, and many times very dedicated efforts fail to be fruitful to us. However, many great personalities of our time and those whose names have been made immortal by history, are proof that rejection is only a push towards something better and more significant. Only those are able to reach the end of this road of trials that leads to success who choose to not give up and continue on the path they have chosen for themselves. But is this perseverance always enough? And how do you get over the despair that comes along with shattered dreams? Here’s a blog to help you bounce back after not landing the job you really wanted.
Your Resume and Cover Letter is the first communication that you have with your employer. This is also the first impression that you make on them, and only when you can convince them that you are the candidate they are looking for through these documents will they show some interest in your application. Even if you have written a well-researched resume, it is quite possible that what your employer requires in absent, or not very well highlighted. If you didn’t even get an interview call, then it is absolutely essential to revisit these documents and making the required adjustments. It would be even better if you could get in touch with someone who was selected, and take a look at how they have presented themselves to the employer.
Maybe it isn’t you, it’s the company or the job itself. Prior to recession companies had a lot more job opportunities than they do today, so if a few criteria were not met by the candidates, they would still accept the 90% match. Times have changed now and positions available have decreased in number, thus, the best option for you is to research the organization you want to work with. Are their policies suitable for you? Do their expectations sound reasonable? What does the position you are applying for demand? How is the organization’s culture? Many times, you don’t get in mainly because these fine details about the organizations are not known to us, which makes our decision to be a part of the concern unsuitable to not only the employer but us as well.
It’s important that we mark out our weaknesses and work on them, for that it’s always best to get feedback from the right people. If you applied for this job via a headhunter, you can always request them to ask the interviewer about your drawbacks. Since these head hunters have relations with the organization, it becomes possible for them to gain such feedback. You can also consult an employee of the organization working at the same position which you are applying for, or who has some information about the way the recruitment works. Of course, this course of action is not easy to take since you need to be familiar with such a person but if you can this is also a great way to progress. Not only will it help you improve, it might give off a good impression to the interviewer/employer who will see you as an open-minded candidate, committed to self-development.
Apply for the Same Position Elsewhere
So, you got rejected by your dream organization, then maybe your goals were set all wrong. It’s the job and not the organization that we should concern ourselves with for there are many corporate giants out there that can give you the work environment that you want. Thus, if one organization rejects you don’t let that be the end of your story. Apply for the same position in other companies, for what was considered a weakness in one organization can be considered a strength in another. Also, since you did gain some experience from your application to the organization you were rejected from, you can use it to make for a better employee in the next interview or application. Remember that failure is a learning process.
Confront your Feelings
Coming to the psychological aspect of dealing with rejection, the first step is to allow yourself to mourn the failure you have faced. It’s okay to let your emotions take over for a while because that is the first step towards letting go or moving on. The sooner you are done with pouring your emotions out, the faster you’ll be back on your feet. Talk to your loved ones, or write your feelings down on paper. Studies have shown that people who confront their feelings are more in control of their situation and accordingly act better. However, ensure that you don’t dwell too long in this state, and get out of it soon enough to take the reins back in your hands.
Pessimistic thinking gets us nowhere, at least optimism sets the mind at ease. Staying positive is easier said than done, however, it still remains absolutely necessary to force yourself towards positive thoughts and actions. If we look at the stories of all the great personalities that I mentioned of in the beginning the common feature in all their stories is that none of them gave up despite the rejection that they had to face. You can either carry on in the same field like JK Rowling did or look for new possibilities in other avenues like Amitabh Bachchan did after being rejected by All India Radio. Both of them, however, turned out to be legends in the fields they chose. Remember that what’s meant to be will always find your way.
One of the biggest problems that come along with rejection is that we cannot come to terms with the fact that the life that we had always dreamed of having is beyond our reach now. It is possible that your prospects of landing that job have been lost forever and it sucks to have no hope to sustain you for the next time. Believe me, I can relate to that to some extent, having been unable to crack my medical entrance exams despite dropping a year to prepare, when all I wanted to be since I was three was a doctor. However depressing this failure was, I knew I had to move on to something better where I could utilize my strengths. You take what you loved about your dream job, analyze it and then choose a profession that gives you a similar kind of satisfaction. It is also possible that you got it all wrong, that the job you have been aiming for wasn’t for you at all. Thus, discover yourself in this process and move on to other much better things in life.
Rejection and failure are two of the worst things that can happen to a person. However, these are also the two things that every successful person has faced at some point in life, be it Steve Jobs, Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam, Oprah Winfrey, or any other influential figure you can think of. The difference between them and a failure is that they did not give up, for successful people don’t do different things, they do things differently.