Wedding nights undoubtedly fills people with excitement and butterflies. It is the night where much awaited moments, inhibitions, dreams and expectations amalgamate. Some people are scared while some are uncontrollably thrilled for their wedding night. Here are pro tips that you need to keep in mind before you create the magic.
Don’t fantasize anything
We all have our sexy imaginations when it comes to romance. But for ‘the night’ don’t fantasize anything. Let the night relay its style of relay on its own. The man might fantasize the wife to unwind like a Bollywood diva and the wife might dream that man lays down a cinematic ardor. Do not get caught up in your fantasies, let things roll up realistically.
TALK THE TALK
It is important to speak about your fears and dreams to your spouse, especially, if it’s an arranged marriage. In love marriages too, it is important to clearly put across what you expect from your partner. It is also very crucial to discuss family plannings and use of contraceptives in advance itself.
HAVE LIGHT PLANS FOR THE FOLLOWING DAY
We suggest that the couple shouldn’t be plan packed for the next day. There should be light plans if any. Do not have plans for the next morning. It will be unfair to give up on the morning sleep and I am sure waking up early would be the last thing on your mind.
PLAN A SURPRISE
It is an exuberant idea to plan a cute surprise on your wedding night. Your partner will be least expecting it and it will be very cute to give him a gift. The gift could be a cute romantic note written by you or may be a gift basket. Don’t forget to put in the Kama sutra book in the basket (wink) !
DON’T BE IN A HURRY
Indulge in a flood of cuddles and kisses. Eat chocolates in the middle of your foreplay, have fun and exchange good vibes. Show each other affection and care. Make romantic gestures, embrace one another and make passionate love.
DO NOT BE SCARED TO LOSE YOUR VIRGINITY
First time can be a little scary for virgins. Don’t be apprehensive about losing your virginity because of the bleeding and pain. Lubricate your private area or perhaps consult a gynecologist to get help on this.
NO SEX- NO PROBLEM
It is ‘NOT’ a big deal to not have sex on the wedding night. It takes time to get comfortable completely before and then continue further. Many couples choose not have sex on their wedding night, it is absolutely normal.
SELF CONSCIOUSNESS IS A SPOILER
Yes! Don’t be conscious about your little imperfections. Your partner will love you with all of that. He/she will adore you regardless of your dark inner thighs, cellulites or those extra pounds. Relax and let the love pour in.
Wedding night is one of the most memorable nights for the bride and groom and for things to go smooth yet spicy, all you need to do is be in the moment and things shall take its course on its own!
Ashwathi is an enthusiastic traveller and dancer with a passion for movies and music. Hailing from an Army background, she considers herself fortunate enough to have experienced the diverse cultures that India boasts of. She is a graduate in Journalism and Mass Communications and has worked in print, radio and television.