When you self- love, you understand yourself much more than others. In the process, you are much more appreciative of all that you have and also the people you attract in life. Here are a few things you do differently than others when finding your soul mate.
A chanced mismatch is not under your control
You understand that just because a match doesn’t work for you, it doesn’t mean that the fault is in you. You understand that the puzzle will fit perfectly in the long run and you do not need to keep chasing frantically to find the right man.
You understand that love isn’t bought
You do not need to meet certain set standards to find the man of your dreams. You are more realistic in understanding that no matter what shape, size or colour you are the eventual journey of finding the right person will be worth it and you will be served when the time is ripe. You are aware that love is not just reserved for a selected few. It’s there is abundance. That, it’s just a matter of time.
You do not melt with shallow words but value actions
When action do not merge with all that has been verbally promised, it shatters your belief. The fact that you respect yourself much more that anything or anyone, it makes you buy into concrete gestures. It doesn’t matter to you if the men you meet have repeatedly convinced you to believe that you are soul mates, when actions aren’t as powerful, it’s a huge turn off for you.
You focus on making yourself more valuable
You value strength and integrity. You are constantly trying to make yourself better than what you were yesterday instead of depending on store bought makeup to conceal your outward imperfections. You understand that a beautiful face attracts attention but you are much intellectual in believing that real substance counts much more in the long run when it comes to finding true love.
You are honest in communicating all that you expect
You are outrightly clear whether you are really looking for a life partner or just a casual hookup. You detest keeping people in the loop just to seek momentary pleasure. You value people’s emotions and consider it degrading to hurt or take advantage of the love they are willing to offer.
You treat like you would like to be treated
You understand that objects should be used for your comfort and not people. That you do not need to mistreat people to boost your ego. Of course, doing good doesn’t necessarily attract good since you have no control over people’s actions. But you love to have faith. You know that you can’t force someone to love you the way you do. This implies that they respect people’s opinions and only wish to get emotionally invested in someone who is equally willing to invest in them.
You are much more open to taking chances with people
You understand that the coal needs to undergo a lot of pressure to finally turn into a diamond. You know that meeting people helps you grow and mature. That a few heartbreaks will only make you stronger and much prepared of the best you are yet to come across.
You do not depend on others for happiness
Your life is testimony to the fact that not everyone is meant to stay. Some people are just lessons to help you appreciate and learn whatever life has to offer to you. Hence, you know how to find joy in yourself. You have learnt to enjoy your own company. What’s important is that you know how to spread happiness.
Born and brought up in India, Anushree's thoughts have been conditioned by a surrounding diverse in all aspects. She aspires to travel round the world and have a taste of the culture, food and music. Her Masters in Political Science has given her a reality check as to where India stands in enlightening its womenfolk. Writing gives her the freedom to materialize her ideas and allow people to sneak into her mind. She finds it fun and liberating.