Let us all admit, that at certain times or the other we have all been attracted by a person’s dashing look. Attraction is no doubt a significant element of a relationship, but then it also fails to define everything at large. On occasions intelligence, assistance and knowing a person from the inside turns out to be far more necessary and worthwhile than making a conclusion out of his or her external outlook. Attraction is a strange concept and even more surprising is why do we develop a deep affection for people. In today’s hook-up and break-up relationship strategy looking for someone real and authentic is becoming more and more tough.
Like all that glitters are not gold, similarly people who makes our heart go fonder might not always be perfect for us. Loving someone for their wit, insight, loveliness or even intelligence is a unique quality. Hence, the question arises what does it actually mean to be allured by a person’s intelligence? When I am talking about Sapiosexuals, I am basically hinting towards those people who falls in love with a person other than their look and outward attractiveness which they show to the rest of the world. It’s not simplyabout falling in love with his/her intellect mind but instead looking for an attachment with someone which goes far away from the physical and is in the domain of the real. So are you a Sapiosexual? If so scroll down the points listed below and see if you are one of them!
YOU love ENGAGING INTO Intellectual DISCUSSIONS WITH YOUR PARTNER
You may love your partner, and also give respect to each other’s space. If you have already known the person then he or she might not like the series of unending queries from your side just to know him or her more. But when it comes to being attracted by intelligence the scene is just the opposite! For a Sapiosexual is someone who doesn’t mind staying up all night discussing superstition, religion, affairs of state, Aristotle or even Socrates! More the questions asked, better the chances of him or her in responding to you without getting bored. Also remember that speaking and sharing about your aims, wants, longing and dreams are all within the sphere of the interest and attractiveness for the Sapiosexual.
BEAUTY DIES OUT AND HENCE YOU WANT TO AGE INTELLECTUALLY IN SYNC WITH YOUR PARTNER
The very fact that you are attracted to intelligence means that you are essentially exceptional in comparison to the general common minds.Interestingly, when someone praises you by appreciating your personality you do not take the remark as a grand thing. This is so because unlike others you know the circumstances which has groomed you up into the present state. As a Sapiosexual,when you want to know the’ other’ and then there are probable chances that you might start liking him/her as well, what prevails thereafter is an attraction based not on physique, good looks, sexual appeal or physical intimacy. For what you basically opt for is a fine charisma and the sound mind to bump into someone. You believe in the fact that with the passage of time one’s beauty will fade away.One’s youth will also be replaced by old age, but then you console yourself with the notion that unlike beauty at least you and your partner can age intellectually in sync, and that’s probably the best part of a matured romantic affair.
YOUR IDEA OF A PERFECT DATE IS SHARING LIFE’S MEANING WITH YOUR PARTNER
One of the greatest personality traits of a Sapiosexual is that you do not get swayed away into an imaginary world which is all glittering and fanciful. You focus on the ‘now’ moment and therefore, unlike others when it comes to your first date ever you visit places which a common mind wouldn’t have given a thought. If you have this wish and yearning to know your partner like really really well you do notgo for decorative cafeteria and musical shows,because these are the kinds of places where people in the name of date usually goes to meet each other, but do not get enough time to know each other well both inside out. A cup of coffee, look through the bookstore, or relaxing on a green lawn, exchanging the views on the value of life, is a more desirable meeting to know if he or she is the one you want to know more and spend the rest of your life with.
YOU ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO BOOKWORMS OR HIGHER DEGREes rather EMOTIONAL COMPATIBILITY
Being attracted to someone’s intelligence doesn’t necessarily mean you are a bookworm and would like to get drown into the pages of literary texts, get a high degree in academics, and read whatsoever books you have in your closet during spare time. Always remember that intelligence might appear in various forms, situations and emotional and heartwarming intelligence is therefore no exception. When you intend to share a great rapport with your partner and like his or her intelligence it’s so because you both are on the similar emotional compatibility. You find your partner direct, instinctive, generous, devoted and thoughtful which makes it all captivating. The way your partner looks at you melts your heart because both deep –seated beauty and heart are well reflected.
YOU JUST WANT SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU WITHOUT FLAUNTING EVERY NOW AND THEN ABOUT HIS FAMiLY’S PRESTIGE
To believe in love at first sight or not is completely up to you, because that’s a response to your heart’s queries. Neither you are fascinated with how far your partner is rich nor are you concerned regarding what types of anagrams or designations they have come up with. As a Sapiosexual you would be influenced and aroused with whom you can engage yourself into a witty conversation and is also kind of cool and composed enough to hang out with. If every now and then you have to use your family’s name to portray your skilled intelligence, then a Sapiosexual knows that you aren’t that smart and worthwhile that you appear to be since you fail to present your individual identity.
YOU ARE ALLURED BY THE PERSON’S ABILITY TO UNDERSTAND YOU, SO THAT THERE’S LESS OF DEPENDENCY
It’s not simply about walking hand in hand with your respective partner and admiring his or her beauty every now and then. For when it comes to being a Sapiosexual, you are allured by the person’s ability to understand you. When you both are together under one roof you are determined with the notion that you should actually respect each other’s space. It is usually through the perfect blend of intelligence and ability to adapt which assures you with the belief that you have chosen the right person for there is less of dependency and more of capability.No one will be scribbling their head guessing what the two of you as a couple are holding in common or what you look for in each other.For the ultimate truth lies in the fact that you know what his or her ability to perceive and skill to readjust says it all. Neither do you show off nor do you exaggerate, and it it this quality which you look for in your partner.
YOU BELIEVE IN PERFECT FRAMING OF language AND HENCE EXPECT THE SAME FROM YOUR PARTNER
Well now this is something interesting! You are more or less, if not for the most part turned off by a textual word from someone whom you had craved as your sweetheart. Since you go for perfection, applying incorrect words such as” there, their, or they’re” while your partner texts you are not at all ignored. Moreover, you also believe in typing the full word or sentences and not short forms like” u” or” because”. Neither do you use, nor you do expect the person texting you to behave in the same manner. Certain words do not belong in your vocabulary, and if by any chance a person makes error while texting or writing it hurts your eyes. On this basis the only reply which you think at that moment is” for god’s sake, put to use an apt grammar.” I think it isn’t that difficult…or is it so?
YOU BELIEVE IN DEEP SEATED EMOTIONAL ALLIANCE AND NOT oN PAGE 3 GOSSIPS
Unlike others you are least interested in Page 3 gossips, the latest trends, or what your favorite celebrities are up to and the next film projects they have in their hands. Whatsoever, you actually have a good feeling in conversing and getting a positive vibe in discussing about things in general which are essentially intellectual and realistic. You train yourself in the mantra of keeping yourself distanced from chitchat and stereotypical sayings and ideas. What you truly need, admire or look for is a deep-seated emotional relationship with the person you are with, and not with someone who simply turns out to be a passing phase without any strong influence in your life.
YOU GO TO THE THEATRES WHOSE STORYLINE IS MEANINGFUL
Being attracted to intelligence doesn’t mean that you are a boring sort of a material. It’s just that you are a bit curious and adventurous regarding your outlook on life. When you are determined to go to the movies with your partner, you opt for films with has a major storyline, is kind of complicated, or a psychological thriller. According to your ideology, there is no enjoyment in viewing a sequel, a light entertainment that is all bathroom comical aspect or a remake of something cheap and junky to go ahead with. If you pass your time at the theatre in all circumstances it must be desirable and suitable enough to be watched over mentally for the long two and three hours leaving no scope to remove your eyes from the screen, thereby raising your curiosity with regard to what’s going to happen next? in each climax and anti-climax.
Always remember that it’s all about looking for the correct person whose inner soul and recesses of heart matches with yours thereby, making you fall in love with him or her through their intelligence build up not only around books but also in sentiments, emotions and sensibility.
Chirasree is highly fond of reading and writing and wishes to create a special niche for herself. She feels that her imaginative skill enhances her potential for writing more. Pursuing literature and an interest in theory and philosophy has inspired her to indulge in books.