9 Stark lies Porn told you about sex!

It is time to bid goodbye to the disappointment caused by the numerous failed attempts at recreating the wild fantasies of dreamlike porn in the reality of our everyday wakeful lives.

Here’s listing the fanciful attempts that need not bring the desired utopic effect as promised in last night’s stag film:

9 Stark lies Porn told you about sex!

GOOD FOREPLAY TAKES ONLY A FEW SECONDS

Unlike in porn, foreplay may actually take longer than 12 to 15 minutes to have its effect on the mood of a couple engaging in sex. However porn teaches us that it takes only about a few seconds of stimulating each other to get one another turned on for a heated sexual encounter.

SPIT – THE NATURAL LUBRICANT

Spit does not act as a lube at all, contrary to what porn shows you. Spit rather causes dryness around the region of the orifices making it even more difficult for smooth motion; the dryness enhancing friction. What you see in porn is what they decide to show you. Before the camera they resort to spitting in and around the privates preceding let’s say a smooth anal encounter but behind the camera they resort to several high end lubes to allow for easy movement especially during anal sex, which otherwise can be excruciatingly painful and more so when spit acts as the lube.

MEN ONLY CARE ABOUT THEIR PENISES DURING SEX

Men just like women like to be stroked elsewhere apart from their junk in order to feel turned on, unlike in porn where the best way to turn on your man is to steadily/quickly strip ( depending on how much time you have in hand) flash some skin and touch the penis directly after, for all you know. But that’s not how it is going to work for the man at home. Every person has a specific erogenous zone, the stimulation of which can arouse the individual better and quicker. It is important to find out that sensitive zone in your partner. For some it could be the ears while for others it could be the neck, the thighs or anywhere for that matter.

NOTHING BUT PENETRATION GUARANTEES ORGASM

9 Stark lies Porn told you about sex!

No; A big ‘No’. Both men and women enjoy being worked on to be made to feel good about themselves by their partner so that they can associate feeling good with their partner and consequently feel aroused by them. It is not as easy as porn shows it to be.

Yes there are a lot of women who need direct stimulation of their privates while however there are some who get turned on when touched elsewhere, for instance the small of the back, the neck and so on. But wherever it may be, stimulation is extremely important, sometimes both before and after penetration to make her orgasm.

Men depend more on visual stimulation but women rely on mental stimulation. So don’t be disappointed if sex alone is not helping you climax, which is otherwise like cakewalk in porn. Porn has less time to entertain more on a visual level because there is no scope for reflecting emotions in porn and so everything is quick and entertaining to watch.

‘SLUT’ ‘BITCH’ THESE ARE WHAT WOMEN LOVE TO BE CALLED IN BED

Every individual is so different from one another. They think differently, feel differently, communicate differently and even have sex differently. What turns me on might have no stirring effect on you whatsoever.

I personally feel that calling your woman a ‘slut’ while making love to her can be extremely disrespectful and demeaning to her esteem. However I know my friends who have a completely different viewpoint to mine. They feel that calling names to each other in bed is more like a play thing which because triggers mock anger helps in adding aggressive fervour to the sexual encounter.

But it is important to be yourself in bed. Be your absolute vulnerable self without having to force something onto yourself or your partner which you intuitively know is not your thing. There are no norms to have good sex unlike what porn teaches us. Just work together, complement each other and let yourselves get carried away into one another for the most beautiful experience.

PUTTING YOUR LEGS OVER YOUR HEAD PROMISES THE BEST KIND OF SATISFACTION

Let me repeat AGAIN, porn is made to stimulate and entertain you on a visual level within a limited period of time. Everything has to look good and appealing to the viewer’s eye hence. Porn concentrates on the physical aspects of the body and not on the emotional aspect which is why nothing that looks physically appealing should be hidden from the eye of the viewer, and that includes – a perfect view of penetration. So the tough to achieve positions showcased in porn do not have to be your mantra to have a satisfying encounter. Do what makes you feel comfortable and helps you feel good.

CALLOUS, INCONSIDERATELY HARD HUMPING FEELS AMAZING FOR ALL WOMEN

While alternating between soft and wild can be quite exciting, it is also important to understand that fast and furious isn’t always the ideal route to orgasm or for that matter, a fulfilling climax. It can leave the man’s penis feeling numb and sore while a quick climaxing on the man’s part will leave the woman feeling dissatisfied because she will not have been able to cum by then. Porn is a fantastical recreation of reality which cannot be achieved in real life which is exactly why it appeals to our fancy and this is something we must accept.

 

ALL WOMEN LOVE IT WHEN MEN EJACULATE ON THEIR FACES. YUMMY!

9 Stark lies Porn told you about sex!

Facial ejaculation shots in porn are a form of reassurance to the viewers about the act being real. It is a way of trying to re-emphasise the pleasure (expressed through facial expressions) associated with the sexual encounter and a clear proof of its outcome. Finishing on the face is then more of a calculative act aiming at visual entertainment than real enjoyment. So remember, not to relate finishing on the face to the woman’s feelings of unmatched pleasure.

 

THE ONLY WAY TO BE GOOD IN BED IS TO SAY YES TO ANYTHING

The only way to be good at sex is not to follow any orders and to go with the flow, paying heed to the involuntary attributes of your body, making sure not to give in to something that you either mentally or physically have an aversion towards.

However it is exciting to engage in something quirky and new once in a while with your partner which actually has been proven to be beneficial to the overall relationship, by a study made in the year 2012 by the University of Arizona and Hangover college that couples who were game for trying new things in bed also were better satisfied in the relationship as partners. But it is also important to remember that a couple who are more adventurous were also more accommodative of one other’s desires and discomfort, making the sexual act very comfortable. So if BDSM or anal sex isn’t your thing you need not say ‘yes’ to them fearing that you might be a buzz-kill.

Love-making cannot be summed up by a 1 hour 30 minutes movie my loves. There is a lot more to look for than what porn weaves up for us, merely to induce visual pleasure because the other sorts cannot be achieved by it.