I can understand what you are going through right now. If somewhere you feel that your husband isn't giving time to you then you should immediately speak to him. I think so you have tried to converse with him, and he has minutely escaped the talk by bringing in work pressure. Look at this point I think you should speak to your in - laws so that they can make their son realize that even his wife is important as well. At the most just to make him aware of your existence and value it will be better if you move out of his house and stay at your parents place so that your absence makes him aware of his daily work affair.