How to win friends and influence people is a big question for a majority of people? Some people struggle their whole life in getting success, but unfortunately, they end up in failure. If you are also one of those, then here are some of the ways in which you can successfully win friends and influence people.
Criticizing and Complaining
You will come across majority of people who will criticize unnecessarily, but when it comes to their criticism, they are not ready to hear the words. There are also those people who complain about their lives and compare with others. Even if they are blessed with everything, they will not appreciate it and start complaining about it. The first principle is never to complain about yourself and not to criticize anybody.
Find What Other Need
If you want others to do what you wish for, you have to give something that they desire the most. People will love to do something for you if you ask them indirectly. For example, if you want the person to give you optimum performance in work, you must be ready to give something that he wishes and hoping for. For instance, if you see how an employee can be utilized and get the best work out of him. For this you need to evaluate what he needs to make it possible for you to achieve goals.
Honest Opinion and Sincere Thanks
Honest opinion about others cannot only build up their morale, but will also help in changing the behavior. Everyone wants to be important and if you appreciate someone in front of a large audience, he will just be praising you. Moreover, paying sincere thanks will change the attitude of people towards you. They will be willing to do more for you. For example, bosses of big companies have sincerely appreciated the work of their employees and paid thanks for the contribution, which in result helped the company to grow.
Show Interest in Others
The key to judge and know people is to show interest in them. Ask silly questions to provoke the level of interest in you. If you focus more on “You” than “I”, you will successfully win friends. They will remember you and will be helpful in building strong relations with them. Don’t be selfish in asking two to three questions and ending up the conversation. Be courteous, smile while you talk and appreciate whenever you feel the time is right.
Remember the Names
It is very embarrassing when you forget the name of a person with whom you had a good conversation in a café. Make sure to remember the names of people, because it is the most fascinating sound for anyone in this world. Especially, if you are a businessperson and want to have good relations with your clients, make sure to develop the skill of remembering names.
Give Respect to Others Opinion
You are not always right and you can’t win an argument, even if you are right. One has to come with various situations in life when they have to accept defeat. This is very much important if you are willing to win friends and influence them. Respect others and their opinions, no matter whether you are right or wrong. Wining an argument will give you sense of success but you will lose the person.