What would sex be without pillow talk? It would lose all its charm and appeal, because in case you thought pillow talk is unnecessary, I’m here to remind you that it is not the act of sex in itself that brings two people close but it is the sentiments involved in the act which vents itself in the form of pillow talk through both vocal and body language and this I feel is the most truest form of intimacy that a relationship needs in order to thrive.
So now that you know what pillow talk is, here’s how you’ll figure why pillow talk is more important than sex for your relationship:
YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE ENOUGH TO SAY ANYTHING
You are much more vulnerable to one another when you’re in bed, unclothed, lying very close to each other, so that anything that otherwise prompts discomfort while sharing might feel quite right to share at that moment.
For instance, you could discuss about the way they spoke to you in relation to a specific issue or how their point of view went completely against yours regarding something that concerns the both of you in its complete seriousness without risking the bond you both share in the relationship by inducing a petty fight.
YOU GET TO KNOW YOUR PARTNER BETTER
At this moment of absolute vulnerability one wants to trust and share the most. There could be certain stories about your childhood or about the past that you haven’t had the courage to reveal to your partner but have been looking for the opportune moment to do so, this is the perfect time for you to unravel all that you have been wanting to. The transparency during pillow talk helps in bringing you both together contributing towards the strengthening of your relationship in total.
SO MANY FEEL GOOD HORMONES ARE RELEASED IN YOUR BODY
You feel all the good things at once. Pillow talk right after an intimate moment with your partner releases all the feel good hormones in your body so that you feel everything together – excitement, love, happiness, euphoria! All of the mentioned feelings you experience at one stop, and i.e. in their arms. In fact it releases even some special feel good hormones that sex might not release.
YOU FEEL TRULY ADORED AND CARED FOR
The hangover of pillow talk will keep you going throughout the day, feeling loved and cared for.
Just simple acts of say, taking away a strand of hair from over your nose so that they can see your face better, the extended stares, the quick soft pecks that linger longer than intended, and the showering of compliments owing to your afterglow will make you feel all the love you need to.
YOU CAN GO REALLY DEEP WITH CONVERSATIONS
The conversations after sex during pillow talk can get quite philosophical and deep pretty naturally, in the sense that the big questions of life can come up or be addressed during this time without any feelings of hesitation, when the both of you are feeling so in love it is difficult to negate one another. So this is a good time to make decisions that matter, which requires one another’s consent.
SPOONING COMES WITH IT
You feel perfectly secure in your partner’s arm when being spooned right after sex and pillow talk is always inclusive of spooning in general. All of this closeness contributes to the intimacy in your relationship to grow. Leaving the bed right after sex without caring to engage in pillow talk is bound to leave you dissatisfied because no matter what we’ll have to admit that spooning feels better than sex any day at any time, irrespective of whether you’ve had a bad day or a good one.
GAZING DEEP INTO EACH OTHER’S EYES IS THE BEST SENTIMENT
Gazing into your partner’s eyes can generate a kind of calming effect on your mind, because being able to stare into one another’s eyes for long helps in developing trust in one another. It both triggers and is a sign of an ever developing trust in your partner which in turn will help build up the relationship. The gazing into one another’s eyes isn’t a common occurrence, even when you’re spending a lot of time together, except when you are lying next to each other in bed after sharing warm moments of intimacy that you can’t help but gaze at each other expressing love and gratitude.
This moment of extreme closeness is only facilitated by pillow talk.
YOU CAN TALK ABOUT SEX WITHOUT FEELING AWKWARD ABOUT IT
Be it positive or negative, if you have anything to say to your partner regarding sex, or about the way they touch you then this is a great time to. Feelings of awkwardness and all sorts of inhibitions with regard to sex talk can be done away with when pillow talk is your resort.
Let’s say you have recently read about a typical sexual pose in an erotica or viewed it in porn that you want to try out but are shy to express this desire to your partner who is rather mostly serious as a human being, this is then the best time to be outspoken about those crazy desires.
THIS IS WHEN YOU HAVE EACH OTHER’S UNDIVIDED ATTENTION
Each other’s undivided attention you have never gotten except during pillow talk and this is the moment you should embrace for when you want to say so much to your partner but haven’t found the perfect instance to.
Sayings of love, like how grateful to them you are, how much they mean to you or in using it to your own purpose by requesting them for something ( to bring home a puppy or to fix the sink) that they were otherwise likely to ignore or willingly not listen which now they can’t pay no attention to.
THE CONNECTION YOU EXPERIENCE DURING PILLOW TALK IS MORE POWERFUL THAN SEX
Are you really always your true self during sex? Often we get carried away by our fantasies and engage in role playing and sometimes might even get conscious about our bodies, about whether we’re making enough noise, whether that noise is turning our partner off and the irony is that there is a constant pressure to clear the head in order to completely be in the moment and enjoy for a satisfactory finish.
Pillow talk is however the time when you’re as vulnerable to your partner, lying in the same intimate position except without the pressure of having to satisfy yourself or your partner by ways of sexual acts. It is the time when you have a perfect space to be your true self and enjoy the closeness for what it is on a more mental level. It contributes to a better attachment between the both of you, further strengthening your relationship.
What would you have to say about pillow talk and it being a friendly ally to your relationship? Are you someone who engages in a lot of pillow talk and do you think it has brought about any positive influence to your relationship? Feel free to share your experiences with us in the comments box below.