For some of us flirting over texts can be a tad easier than flirting in person. So for those of us who find it easier to set up a conversation over texts rather than on a face to face level, here are a few tips to make the most of our skills at flirting in the way we text the one we’ve been eyeing.
LET HIM KNOW THAT HE CROSSED YOUR MIND
This will inevitably draw him towards you because he will feel like he is important. This feeling adds to an ego boost in him which is of course a happy feeling, so he will look for ways to fetch more of your attention and thus work towards pleasing and spend time thinking about you, because you grant him an ego boost.
ADD CHEERFUL EMOTICONS TO YOUR TEXTS
Use a lot of winks and other happy faces in your texts to bring a smile to his face as well. It’s a flirty yet sweet way of showing him that he makes you happy.
USE HIS NAME IN YOUR TEXTS
Take his name more often in your texts. It lends a feeling of intimacy. It’s as though you like to call his name, because of the person that the name suggests. It’s a subtle way of flirting without going over the top.
MANIPULATE HIS SEXUAL CRAVING OF YOU
Don’t send outright sexual texts but play his mind. Say something with which he will be able to associate other naughty stuff. Something like, “I just got out of the shower, so I’ll ping you in a bit” This very seemingly innocent and simple text can create a hell of an impact on his mind.
SHORT AND SWEET IS THE BEST FORM OF TEXT
Don’t write essays. If you drown him with too many details about your life, providing ample explanations of your daily occurrences, he will soon get bored. Reveal some and let him keep guessing the rest.
DON’T MAKE YOUR FLIRTATIONS SEEM OBVIOUS
If you do the flirting for him, then he won’t put much effort into trying to work things out to please you, because you’re making yourself easy to please. So always provide him with food for naughty thoughts but don’t do the thinking for him.
SHOWER HIM WITH COMPLIMENTS
Pay him a lot of compliments. Who doesn’t like to hear nice things about themselves? It’s just a sweet way of telling him that you admire him for certain qualities. If he likes you, he will try to foster those qualities to please you even better.
DON’T LOOK DESPERATE CRAVING HIS ATTENTION
Keep him wondering as to whether you like him. Once he is sure that you do, he will lose interest. It is human nature to feel attraction towards something or someone that or who is unattainable. If he asks you out for the movie, don’t say ‘yes’ right away but say something like you’ll let him know, or you’ll try.
DON’T ALWAYS TEXT ASKING TO MEET YOU
He has a life and so do you. He should know that you have a fun and happening life of your own to desire to be a part of it. If you send him texts only asking to meet then he’ll get the idea that you have nothing else to do and nowhere else to be, which is why you’re pestering him to meet.
DO NOT BE CLINGY
If he doesn’t respond to your text or doesn’t call back, don’t text or call him again. If he has to he will call you back or send something in response. You can’t force anyone into doing something for you but you can manipulate the way they think, by being unavailable, unattainable, self made and not giving a damn to whether he responds or not, because you have plenty of other people to have fun with, and besides you are an amazing company to yourself. Aren’t you?
DON’T DRAG CONVERSATIONS JUST FOR THE SAKE
Do not text him when you have nothing to say or are in a bad mood. You will end up sounding grim, boring and needy. If you’re trying to flirt, then sounding anything but cheerful and confident is a big ‘no no’.
If you realise that you’ve ran out of things to say, just end the conversation abruptly and tell him you’ll get back to him later because you’re caught up with some work. This will keep him waiting to talk to you, because he’ll think that he hasn’t made an impression enough on you, for you to want to communicate longer.
Got it? Now go ahead and use all of this knowledge to your advantage. Happy trapping him!