Falling in love is great. But not being liked back enough is the worst thing that can happen when you are in love or you just started liking someone. It just makes some people weak and dejected enough to question their own worth. You start wondering what you did that made things so bad and start cursing yourself of what you could have done to keep things stable.
Well, you can only control what you do and not how another person feels for you. What someone feels for you is for them to control and if they don’t like you back, then you just have to accept it the way it is and move on. You can crib and feel bad about it, but it is never possible to have all that you like. What you can do is learn if at all you made certain mistakes that you recognize or increase your attractiveness. You should focus more on how things can be better at your end. The rest will follow like the way it has to. Here are a few things that you could possibly work on to get over someone who doesn’t like you back.
Stay away from him
Sometimes, out of sight is out of mind. You have to be on your own and stay away from him. Stop being at places where he is a regular. This is not to say that you cannot enjoy where you want to but avoiding him will be the right thing to do. If you run into him, you will find it difficult to get his thoughts away. If he is courteous enough with you, you will start dreaming about him again and mistaken that for his interest and in case he doesn’t, you be mad at him and yourself back again. If he likes you enough, he will make every little effort to make you feel great. Simply put, the efforts will be visible.
Sometimes, we do get so obsessed with this one person that we stop thinking about the reality. We live in the hope that things will eventually get better with time and he will like you back. To keep yourself sane, you will have to make yourself think that this is never happening again. If it was supposed to happen it would and not because you were ready to give it all. Get yourself into believing that he will never be with you because if a man really liked you enough he would show concrete efforts. Love can never be forced. Sometimes, you may be the perfect person but the guy not really be keen on spending his whole life with you. Now, that’s okay. Don’t let someone decide on how you should be feeling about yourself. You are great just the way you are. Moe on, if he cares to be with you, let him chase you.
Think about his bad qualities
Okay, I understand that no one is perfect and we cannot keep judging people all the time for the flaws that they are made up of. But you need to understand that part of why you are so obsessed about this guy is because he are constantly telling yourself to look at his positive side only. When you really like someone you can’t help but think about all the good things that he has done for you and how good he made you feel. Often we mistaken someone’s niceness to be their interest in us. Focus on his bad qualities if you really want to get over him. You may also need to demonise him so that you emerge out of the feeling that you have for him. Probably you don’t know him close enough. If you really get to the reality of how people are, they can be intimidating.
Stop being too hard on yourself.
There was a time when I tried blaming myself when people didn’t like me back. It was depressing to feel rejected. I cribbed, cried and questioned my value and worth. Sadly, this doesn’t go a long way because all you have at the end of the day is yourself. You should always love and care for your emotions first before you try handling someone else’s. You might feel bad temporarily but just accept this as a lesson. There are so many people out there who you are destined to meet. Stop killing yourself for someone who is just a stop along the way. You have a destination to reach and trust as much as you would like to contest this, there are so many good things that are waiting for you and you have no clue about. Never give a person the chance to control reins of your life.