So you have recently are head over heels in love with this guy and just can’t wait to see him every day. Both of you can’t wait to have some alone time together. You are always looking forward to getting hands down dirty with him and he leaves you thinking about all that he did for the whole day making you long for more each time you meet. He is on your mind for the most part of the day. But are you sure what you call “love” is actually so? Or are you confusing between love and lust? Do you find it confusing to understand what the true state of your position is in this relationship? Here are a few ways in which you can actually decipher the real status of all the fantasies that you harbour about your relationship:
How to know if he loves you or lusts you?
They fail to look you in the eye
It is truly said that eyes are the window to one’s soul. This is something that is very evident. When someone loves you, they will look you in the eye. You can feel all their emotions just by the way they gaze at you. No matter what claims they make, how your partner stares at you make a lot of difference. It actually tells you the kind of feelings they have for you. Those that have a lusty feel towards you, will concentrate more on the other parts of your body like your boobs, your ass. Their eyes will always wonder in a manner that will show their sexual affinity towards you. Instead, a partner who loves you tends to look you in the eye more instead of stealing glances in between your conversations.
They won’t bring up family and friends
Those whose feelings towards you are heavily inclined towards lust, are not serious about you. They just love your body and the satisfaction you give them physically. There is no emotional connect which is why they don’t explore the possibility of talking about their friends and family with you. Nor will they ever make it a point to introduce them to you and vice versa. With a partner who sees you with lust, you will always be a secret. He who loves you will never keep you a secret though he may try and keep the relationship private, both of which are separate things. So, if your partner never brings up the prospect of his family and friends before you, it’s not love, but lust.
Friendship is not the foundation of the relationship
Friendship forms a very strong foundation of relationships that are based on love. When you love someone, you tend to be more like friends, hanging out together, sharing jokes, being there for each other and respecting the differences that you have. Without friendship, it is almost a master-slave relationship where the slave is only made to fulfill the whims and fancies of the master. If you only meet your partner almost on an appointment basis just to have sex and have nothing to do with each other right after you are done, then you are probably in a lusty relationship that lacks anything close to love. Love is more of an emotional fulfillment rather than just physical satisfaction.
There is no emotional transfer, only mechanical activity
When two people are in love, sex is more than just a physical act. You can feel the love in his touch, the way he caresses you, the way he kisses you, how he respects your opinions and what he does to give you the equal amount of satisfaction that he expects from you. If it’s lust, you will only find yourself giving more. Your needs will not be taken seriously. Just the excitement of sex and his body will be your sole concern. You won’t really care about the real issues after the sexual act. All that matters to you is the momentary satisfaction. Even if the lust signs are nearing its end, you don’t really care.
There is no talk about the future
If your relationship is solely based on lust, you won’t really talk about a future together. Those who are in love have a tendency to be possessive about each other and they weave dreams together. It is difficult for them to think of a future without the presence of the person they love. However, if you find no interest in speaking to your partner about the future, then you don’t really love the person. All that matters to you is lust. If you are still fine with such a state of the relationship, it is up to you to decide. However, if you are looking for something that can lead to something concrete, then you should probably move out.
