6 Reasons why your Vagina may hurt during sex!

6 Reasons why your Vagina may hurt during sex!

“Carnal pleasure is the foundation of continuation of mankind,” I once told a friend of mine, who laughed really hard. A consensual sexual relationship is supposed to be about pleasure more than anything else. But the unrealistic and distorted versions presented to us in pornography or other such scenes, in general, have normalized one very essential health red flag. Dyspareunia, or pain during or after sex, is a commonly found complain in most women at some point in their life. However, many of us just accept it as part of the experience. Which it definitely is not. If you experience noticeable or unbearable pain during sex then that is an issue which shouldn’t be ignored. While it is best to see a gynecologist in a situation such as this, here are a few things that might be the cause behind dyspareunia.

 

 

Not Enough Lubrication

 

Sometimes when it comes down to it, we women are no better than men when bound on a mission to prove how young we are. In that regard, we often associate lubrication of the vagina with age. Vaginal dryness has nothing to do with age but the biology of an individual. If your body doesn’t produce enough lube to last through sex then the process of rubbing of skin against skin can be a painful experience. To make it smoother it is important that you resort to using lubricants during foreplay or penetration. Another reason for a lack of lubrication can be that you are not turned on enough. It’s ok to say no to your partner when you don’t feel like you are that into it. However, if you still want to engage in sex, then a lube is your best friend. Just using an external agent to make it easier for the penis to slip in can be the end of all your pain.

 

 

Vaginal Infection

6 Reasons why your Vagina may hurt during sex!

If you have a vaginal infection then you are probably already seeing symptoms of irritation and itching. These active infections become even harder to bear during sex. Vaginal infections that are making sex painful for you can range from normal bacterial or yeast infections to Sexually Transmitted Infections. Urinary Tract Infections, Genital Herpes, Gonorrhoea, Chlamydia, and some other such infections can make sex very painful. These kinds of infections can increase the pain during penetration and even deep thrusting in extreme cases when they affect the cervix or the uterus. The infections, however, are often accompanied by symptoms like itching, abnormal discharge, inflammation or irritation of vagina or vulva, or burning. Thus, it is always helpful to visit the doctor to get the best treatment. Treatment usually includes very simple medicinal routines to be followed.

 

 

Conditions not involving Vagina or Vulva

 

Another common cause of the pain experienced in the uterus region during sex is endometriosis. This is a disorder caused by the outward growth of the endometrium, the innermost lining of the uterus. This condition leads to extremely painful cramps and of course, even more, painful sex. The only way to find out whether you have endometriosis is through surgery.Once found out the treatment can include hormonal therapy or surgery. Pain during sex doesn’t necessarily have to be related to the vagina and vulva. Other causes can be ovarian cysts, fibroids, scarring due to infections, uterine prolapse, pelvic inflammatory disease and more. In any case, it is essential to see your doctor if the pain you experience during sex can be sensed in areas other than your vagina or vulva. Some of these conditions can become serious if left untreated for long.

 

 

Vulvodynia

 

As the name suggests, Vulvodynia is a condition related to the vulvar region. The condition, with no apparent cause, can last for up to 3 months. During this time, it becomes difficult to even sit, let alone think of sex, so excruciating is the pain. Though it is not an uncommon condition, it still isn’t diagnosed with other vaginal or vulvar conditions. Symptoms of Vulvodynia include Burning, Soreness, Stinging, Rawness, Painful intercourse (dyspareunia), Throbbing, and Itching. The pain can either be generalized and felt in the entire region of the vulva, or localized and felt only in certain areas. The problem with vulvodynia, however, is that most of its symptoms are commonly found in many other vulvar problems. Thus, it is best to see your gynecologist to rule out the more serious possibilities. While there really is no cure for the problem, the symptoms can be treated, making it easier for you to work around and have fun in the bed.

 

 

Abnormal Anatomy

 

Sometimes the problem is with the way our reproductive organs develop. Congenital abnormalities are often the cause of the extreme hurt experienced during sex. Vaginal agenesis is one such deformity in which the female lacks a fully-formed vagina and uterus. The penetration thus becomes a problem as there is no vagina to receive it. It often requires vaginoplasty surgery for correction. Imperforate hymen is another condition that can be behind this problem. In this, the thin layer of tissue that breaks when a woman has sex for the first time is so thinking that it becomes hard to break or doesn’t break at all. Women with this disorder have very troubling menstruation as well, as most of the blood remains in the vagina. A minor surgery can treat this problem. In less serious cases, size becomes the cause of the pain experiences during sex. Maybe your vagina is too small and large penises can thus make sex uncomfortable for you. Plenty of lube can help the problem in some cases.

 

 

Sex Positions

6 Reasons why your Vagina may hurt during sex!

Sex positions have a huge impact on the vagina. Sometimes certain sex positions are not compatible with your vagina which makes intercourse very uncomfortable for you. Again, the size of your partner’s penis plays an important role here. Large sizes can make sex uncomfortable in certain positions. Thus, it is best to explore which positions make sex uncomfortable for you and then go about it accordingly. In this situation too, using a lot of lube can help. However, it is better to settle this with your partner for things like these leads to performance anxiety or pressure that can strain an otherwise happy relationship.

 

 

Relationship Issues

 

Sometimes it is all in your head. If you have crossed everything on the list above and your gynecologist says nothing’s wrong, then this is probably the last thing to consider. Emotionally rough patches between couples often show strain on the love life. The existence of a sex drive lone does not mean sexual compatibility is present in a relationship. Your personal issues like insecurities and low self- esteem can also create a mental barrier. This barrier begins to emerge in the form of a presumed pain in the vagina during sex. In these cases, it is important to reconsider your relationship and discuss these issues with your partner. Couples counseling or sex therapy can help couples who find themselves in tough times. For people with personal issues, it is best to see a counselor to discuss these issues with. If you are with someone who exaggerates your fears knowingly, then that person needs to be kicked out. Otherwise, if you want to work on your relationship seeking professional help is a must.

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Inspired by the Harry Potter movies, Anmol started writing short stories at the age of 7 (which were as good as they could be). Now 19, and pursuing a Bachelors in Business Administration, she has started writing blogs mostly on pop culture and issues that affect the masses. A feminist to the core, she hopes to work for the United Nations some day on their Women Empowerment projects.
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