Dating games can have quite the opposite effect on you especially if you have been taking thing too casually. Hide and seek may been fun for sometime but that might also repel the better prospects that you are supposed to meet. Those who are on the scene for hook-ups are pretty chilled about what they are expecting and like to keep it that way. However, if you have other plans and are looking for a relationship, you should be loud and clear so that misunderstandings and bitterness don’t permeate into the equation that you share with each other. Despite clarifying your expectations, men still like being chased. Women might find it difficult to show all their cards away and this fear might push away all the good men that they are supposed to meet and probably end up being together with.
A short tip: Don’t give yourself away way too soon. Let him prove if he is worth it and whether he is really interested in having you in his life, if at all you are looking for something serious. Despite the test that you are putting him through, be nice to him and always maintain your dignity wherever you go. It’s okay if you have trust issues and you want to be absolutely sure before you let them have your 100%.
Making him wait for a response
Blame it on the negative influences that have taught you to try and be so exclusive that you keep someone waiting for a polite response. If you think that peaks their interest in you, it could also go the other way round and make them lose their interest completely. If you consider yourself a prize, don’t assume that the other person thinks any low of himself. The time taken to respond to a person’s call or texts holds enough respect. In the process of playing hard to get, don’t just kill the vibe by acting too pricey.
Failing to Acknowledge and appreciate
It is not often enough that people do make efforts for you. When they do, make sure you acknowledge that and also let them know if there is something that floored you. No matter who you meet and what agenda they have in mind about you, make sure that you are at your nicest best. You may not want to show him that you are already sold but appreciating something is always heart warming. Don’t make someone feel mad or unappreciated. People have hopes whether you are in tune with that or not.
Being selfish
Selfish people are mood killers. If you constantly speak about yourself and brag about your accomplishments or shout out your sob stories, it will bore the other person. If you want to make people happy, you should be able to listen to them. Be interested in what they have to tell you. Not just does that keep the conversations interesting, but also tells your date that you care about people and not just your well being. If you are looking for a partnership, you cannot talk and act like you are the only one who should matter.
Acting busy all the time
No one is too busy to do something they like. If you really have the will, you will meet whoever you have to. If you keep telling people that you cannot go out with them, you immediately hurt their ego because they assume that you are not interested in them. You may reject a date once but if you do that every time they ask you out, you will crush their ego which no man wants to afford.
Acting the least interested
When you are around people, you will have to be interested. Now if things don’t really vibe well, it will be difficult to force yourself but you should be courteous and give people and chance to express themselves well. If you show him like you don’t care about his presence, it will be taken as an insult. If you were in a relationship, it would still irritate a man if you act least interested. Now when you are in the dating pool, you have to understand that there are other women out there too who are ready to give the attention to the guy who is seeking that from you. Given the options available, do you think it is practical to assume that he will linger for long? I don’t think so!
Killing the vibe
If you are in no mood to see this guy again, make sure you are upfront about it but always watch your words even when you say a ‘No’. Don’t leave in between a date or act and make excuses. People can always tell when you are trying to bail out of a situation you don’t like. Be honest about what you want and what’s not working.
