It is always tough to digest that your man has slept with someone else before you. The visuals always make you uncomfortable thinking about him indulged in a hot and steamy affair with his ex on bed. But don’t we all have sexual pasts? If it seems to bother you then you must come to terms with it as you are planning to be involved with him in future. You cannot let his past become an hindrance in your relationship just because you are jealous and uneasy.
I agree that it is not a cakewalk to deal with such a situation as his sexual past may be filled with numerous adventures that make you want to judge him. You may also feel like criticizing him for his choices that compiles his notorious sexual history. Given the details you may also feel that he has been involved with a prostitute or multiple women at the same time. If he has confessed that he has been into a lot such kinky stuff, you are likely to undergo a tough time recollecting and stabilizing your emotions. The first thing you need to know is that it is normal and it is something that can be controlled. Here is how you can bring your restlessness under control and use it in your advantage.
IT IS NOT REALLY YOUR BUSINESS
If you have whole heartedly accepted his past, then why not his sexual past as well? His sexual history is something that he should be bothered about and not you. You walked into his life and ever since it is a new journey for him. The choices he has made past that is only what should concern you. Apart from STDs, there is no information that he actually accountable for. Don’t push him to elaborate on the details if you think you won’t be able to deal with it. Stop him if he begins to tell you about his sexual past. Well! Mostly men refrain from such topics. Women are most likely to dig into these conversations and end up hurting themselves.
CONSIDER YOURSELF LUCKY
A man with a hot sexual history is any day more eligible than a man who is dumbstruck on bed. Feel lucky to be with a man who knows exactly how to turn you on in a million different ways. Dating someone who has had a lot of sex means you too will have a great sex life. Enjoy your sex and look deeply interested. Do not forget that you are the one reaping benefits from his awkward and mischievous sex past.
IT IS NOT REVERSIBLE
Whatever they have done is a thing that belongs to the past. Dragging it to the present will only ruin your relationship and create ripples. First of all you need to be happy that he is not repeating anything in his present. If he is, it is only with you. His past is something that he cannot erase, it is impossible. Take time to deal with your insecurities but make sure that you do not hamper your bonding with him. It may appear that you are unwilling to fully trust him which might be a setback.
HE DIDN’T KNOW YOU WHEN IT HAPPENED
Why are you feeling sorry for yourself when you didn’t even know that person back then? His past has nothing to do with you. Whatever he has done in his sex life was harmless to you back then and still it should be the same way. Your involvement was nowhere in the past but it is in the present and you should be concerned about things taking place right now.
CONTROL YOUR THOUGHTS
Over thinking is a common issue while dealing with an ravenous sexual appetite of a partner. But there are a few things that you are ignoring. He is not someone who continues to long for those wild quests and keeps treating you like a sex object. Your inability to control your thoughts is misleading you and you have begun to draw conclusions which is not an appropriate thing to do.
BE THE BEST THEY EVER HAD
You will see how insignificant is past when the present is amazing and extravagant. It is not true that you have to be the kinkiest version of yourself to end up having the best sex. The best sex you guys will ever have could be the one that is effortless. It is the sense of belongingness to a person that makes things beautiful.
YOUR CONCERN SHOULD BE HOW HE TREATS YOU NOW
He treats you like a princess and has been there for you when you needed him. What more are you asking from the universe?
YOU SHOULD BE PROUD OF WHO HE HAS BECOME
If you are with him, there is a reason. If you fell in love with him, you saw something positive that other’s couldn’t. Being averse about his past simply signals that you are not sure about your decision which evidently means that you are not proud of who he is. You are letting his past decide how you perceive him. Why would you want to lose a guy who has gone through so many experiences and have healed into a complete gentleman? You silly, don’t !
Change your point of view and utilize things in the best interest of your relationship. Past is what is long gone and you cannot turn it around but your future will be constructed with your choices in the present.