Here you are sitting in your room, scrolling through the news feed and all you find is people posting engagement photos, mushy status etc. which leads you to question your single status- Why ain’t you in a relationship yet? Why haven’t I had my first date yet? Am I too reserved? And the list goes on. It seems as if everyone is in a long-term relationship or engaged or in the ‘it’s complicated’ phase of their relationship. But you? You are single who haven’t even had a single date. You are late bloomer in the relationship and romantic department and it’s nothing to worry about.
Yes, you may find it frustrating that everyone has already had their first kiss and you are the last one to have it. You might also find it awkward that even people younger than you have already experienced a lot of things before you. For a late bloomer like you, it feels as if you are prodding on a slow lane while everyone is whizzing past you at high speed. But it is nothing to be ashamed of because honestly, age has nothing to do with romance and love. It is okay to take your own time in figuring out and exploring the romantic department. Just like people who explored relationships at a younger age benefited a lot from it, you being a late bloomer, age and life taught a lot much to you too. So don’t fret about being a late bloomer in the romantic department because it just shows that you gave time for other important things in life.
Here’s why it is perfectly okay to start dating a little later in life than others:
You Know Yourself Better
People have called you selfish before just because you were too involved in your own self. You didn’t spend your time moping around some breakup or spend it on stalking the crushes, instead, you made good use of the time and succeeded in life. You know what you exactly want and your expectations from life are not overshadowed by your past relationship.
Spending Time With Family
One of the pros of being a late bloomer is that you spent most of your time growing up with your family and friends, which means you never missed out on any of the occasions, get together or reunions. You didn’t waste your time on some flings but you spent it on your family and friends. Family is forever, they provide you with the comfort that no one else ever can.
Loving Yourself And Accepting The Flaws
Unlike others, you accept the fact that you have flaws and it is okay to have them. Being a late bloomer and not having anyone else always by your side taught you how to love and embrace yourself and not wait for someone else’s assurance. You also know that you don’t have to change for someone. If someone wants to love you they have to take you in along with all your quirks and flaws because too bad, you are not going to change your personality for them. [Read: Self Love: How do you do it?]
Listening To Your Instincts And Gut Feelings
You know when to listen to your instincts and you know that it is right most of the times. You never depend on other’s opinion or judgment because you know that at the end it is you who has to face the consequences of your choices and not others. But this realization comes only after a certain age and late bloomers are among those few people who realize this. They do take the advice of their family and friends but they know that it is best to trust their gut.
You Won’t Judge Your Date On The Basis Of His Or Her Appearance
Because you are way past that, you know that looks can be deceiving. You understand that there’s more to a person than their appearance. That’s the reason why you’ll never judge someone for their appearance. You know that a person is judged a lot on the basis of their looks and they are even bullied because of that. You may have experienced such thing too because of your lack of dating skills. But you don’t seem to care much and that’s a really good thing that a late bloomer brings along into the relationship. [Read: 6 Quick tips for women on their first date!]
You Are Not Obsessed With Reaching The Milestones Like Others
You have hardly given any thought to dating in your teen years and that’s why you have never been the one who has to keep up with your peers. Yeah, sometimes it might have bothered you but then you might have brushed it aside thinking that it doesn’t matter to you. Married at 25, kids at 30 has never been your kind of life. You have a different set of goals altogether and that’s why you are a late bloomer in this dating and relationship thing. [Read: If your man has these 9 habits, accept his marriage proposal]
You Have Worked Hard For What You Want And Will Keep On Doing So
Being a late bloomer, you know things in life don’t come easily. You have learnt to work hard for things you want in life. You also cherish the things you have worked hard for. Same will happen even in your relationships. You’ll put your all into it to make it work and you’ll cherish your partner. Along with it, you’ll never put aside your needs because you know it is as important. You’ll value relationships more than others because you are in it all.
Pent Up Energy Put To Good Use
Apparently, late bloomers are really good at sex and dating. Of course, they will be, because c’mon, they ain’t getting any since they hit their puberty like others and that means a lot of pent-up energy. They are a lot better because even if they haven’t been having sex like those around them, they haven’t been living under the caves. They have friends and cousins and they have seen everything that goes in their lives. They have taken note of a lot of things and they are self-aware of all the things. They put all that knowledge to good use. [Read: 6 Ways to stay single unless you are ready to handle relationships]
You Know – ‘What’s Meant To Be, Will Be’
All those years have taught you a lot about life and you are utilizing it. You know that ‘what’s meant to be will be’ and you know that things happen in life for a reason. You have learnt to move forward in life and not wait for things to come back to you.