Not all of us are good at flirting. Fewer than that are good at flirting over text. But we all meet that one guy who we have to get. The one we have our heart set on. And if you don’t make a move, someone else will. And there goes your knight in shining armor. Off to rescue another damsel in distress. But don’t you worry for I have your back. You see, the internet provides us with a shield. A shield which hides our nervousness and anxiety from the person we are texting with. I have for you some tips on how to best use this shield. And at the same time make him yours. So, here are some flirty texts to send to a guy you just met.
Should I text first?
A lot of chick flicks would tell you to not text first. But this is real life, not a movie. If you don’t make a move, someone else will. Remember that in your life, your crush hasn’t been paid to wait around for you. Another one of our fears is that we would come across as needy and desperate. A small ‘Hi!’ or ‘Hello!’ doesn’t make you look needy. Whoever thinks that is a psycho narcist and not worth your time. You are not going to tell him you like him in the first conversation. If you were planning on doing that, then don’t. Otherwise, a casual conversation never hurt anyone. So, take the first step. TEXT HIM! Or someone else will.
How do you start a conversation with a guy?
If you want to play it safe, then start with ‘Hi’. The kind of opener you use will serve as your first virtual impression. Using ‘Hello!’ is a little formal. So, if you want to come across as chill, then use ‘Hi!’. If you want to take a risk, then use a sweet opener. In fact, it is better to use an opener rather than a ‘Hi’ as it gives more room for further conversation. So, think of something that has happened recently which you can talk to him about. Also, try to pick up something which is related to him.
For example, pick up his latest social media post. Let’s say he posted pictures from a holiday he went to, you can text, “Nice clicks from your Goa trip. I can only imagine how fun it must have been.” You can get him talking about his trip and take the conversation anywhere from there. The important thing is to show interest in him and his life. Use whatever information you have on him.
For example, if you know his favorite band, send him a text asking for recommendations. “Was listening to Linkin Park. Could you send some recommendations.” 9 out of 10 chances are he will check back in to see what you think. Or maybe invite him to hang out at one of his favorite places. “Heading to your favorite pizza place. Wanna join?”
The Use of Emojis
Emojis are a great way of communicating easily. But not a lot of people know what all of them stand for. So, don’t risk making him look like an idiot if you are an emoji queen. Use emojis minimally. Use only those emojis which are absolutely necessary to convey the right emotions. Or use them as supplements to words already written if you must. If there is one emoji you can use generously, it is the wink.
But don’t go crazy with it either. Use the wink emoji when you are trying to be flirty. Wink conveys mystery. So, limit it to messages that convey mystery or mischief. For example, simply texting, “Hey! Let’s hang out today. It will be a lot of fun” isn’t flirty at all. However, “Wanna hang out today? We can do a lot of fun stuff together 😉” adds flirtation and mystery to it. He will surely want to find out what you have on mind.
Being Suggestive Always Works Better
Being mysterious and suggestive are great tools in your arsenal. Guys always say that they wish women were more direct about what they wanted. But that wish doesn’t apply to when you are flirting. It takes all the charm away. So, make him use his imagination. But remember, this is only if you have reached a certain level with him. You can start with something small like, “I was tired after the gym but now I feel better after my hot shower.” This will help you cross the line from casual to flirty.
Now, this is where you get bold. So, start with something like, “What do you relate most to [insert eggplant emoji] or [insert cucumber emoji]?”. I’m assuming that by the time you get to this you know a little bit about his humor. If he is a guy who doesn’t mind some dirty humor, he will love how comfortable you are with him. If you don’t think you know him enough to risk this yet, then let it go.
However, if you are bold enough to test him, then take it a little further and send, “Big [insert spoon emoji] or little [insert spoon emoji]? Asking for a friend 😉”. This will really tell you a lot about his sense of humor. But only a confident woman can pull this off with success. Because if he does play along then you will have to too. You can’t get uncomfortable with a little harmless humor after this. Don’t let him cross the line though. Remember, you decide the line. You in for it?
Play with His Imagination
Subtle suggestiveness coupled with some boost for imagination can work wonders. If you don’t want to be too strong with eggplant and cucumber jokes, there is a stronger play for you to use. Innocent intimate information leaks work better than the comparatively direct ones. For example, maybe in the middle of a conversation drop, “Oops! I laughed so hard I spilled water all over my top XD”. The best place to use it is when he has cracked a joke. Any joke would work, so long as you are able to place this right.
Or maybe use the help of the wink emoji again. “I had so much fun today. We should hang out more often. And do more exciting stuff together 😉”. He will wrack his brains over what you meant. This will only make your more charming and appealing to him. Or maybe get his advice on your outfit choices. “Can’t decide what to wear to the party, LBD or this cute black skirt. Help, please?”. Maybe send a couple of pictures of yourself wearing these outfit choices. Give more fodder to his imagination.
Be Prepared for the Response
If you are going to flirt with a guy he will respond. If he’s interested then the response will be naughty. And you need to know how to handle naughty replies without crossing the line. For example, let’s say you send, “I forgot to do my laundry last week and now I have nothing to wear.” And his response is, “So, you are not wearing anything right now?”. Respond with a wink and switch to another question. This way you can maintain the mystery and keep the conversation within permissible limits.
Never cross the line between flirty and dirty unless you are absolutely sure that he isn’t the kind of guy to take it the wrong way. And truth be told, very few guys don’t take it the wrong way. So, maybe keep the spoon and eggplant jokes reserved for a more appropriate time. especially if you are not sure of the guy.