Are you confused if the man you are dating a player or an absolute gentleman? Sure, you are wooed by him but can you count on the initial spark to last forever? You need to be aware that gentlemen are not perfect beings in the world. He may have his own set of shortcomings and may not seem confident like you would expect a gentleman to be. In fact, he won’t shy away from what makes him anything but human. On the other hand, it is a player who will look and act all perfect because he knows just what to copy to win over a lady. Here are the ways in which you can distinguish a gentleman from player:
A gentleman has his manners in place:
Might sound old school but this is true. He will do everything to make you feel good. He will hold the door for you. He knows what to do at the most appropriate time. He will be well mannered and won’t shy away from doing anything for you. Feminists may not actually approve of this, but let’s be honest. Who doesn’t like a well mannered man?
A gentleman will treat you as an equal
He will never look down on you or shun your opinions just because you are a female. He will respect you for the person you are no matter how you look or which class of the society you come from. All that matters to him is the self identity that you have created and the persona that you carry with yourself.
A gentleman will be emotionally available
He will wish to know about you, what you like and what you don’t. He will be all ears when you talk and will keep the littlest details in mind. Unlike him, players will stay aloof. They will remain secretive. Neither will they share too much about themselves nor will they wish to listen to you. He doesn’t want to get emotionally burdened for he treats you just as an option in the lot.
A gentleman only wants your attention
He will never be too loud about anything. He doesn’t want the attention of anyone else but you whenever you are around. If he takes a keen interest in you, he wants to be completely reserved for your attention only. In case you see him eyeing other woman, understand that he is vying for their attention. And that there are other women as well who are already present in the list.
A gentleman doesn’t expect from you
Understand that people value their money. When they spend they are careful about who they spend it on. So either you are special or being used for. A gentleman does things for you only because he wants to. There are no obvious reasons why he does what he does. A player expects something in return for everything he does. This might range from a kiss to perhaps even sex. The time taken for matters to escalate from a kiss to sex (if that is his only interest) may depend on the level at which he is playing.
A gentleman will make you feel comfortable:
A gentleman prioritises your comfort and will never do anything inappropriate. He won’t stare at you inappropriately. You might draw all sorts of attention when you are out. But the way a gentleman appreciates you will be very different from the way a player will stare at your assets. You will feel judged right by the way a player chooses to measure every inch of you. Also when a player does so, he will have someone in mind who he is constantly comparing you with.
A gentleman will communicate
A gentleman won’t put up a “no show” attitude. Whether the first date goes well or not, he will communicate with you. He won’t ghost you just because you don’t fit into his forever picture. Whatever it is, he will communicate and never leave you clueless. A player on the other hand, will ghost you whenever he wants to. He doesn’t feel like he owes you any explanation. You may have shown an interest but once he is done with you, he will have moved to another woman. He will just choose to end things abruptly without an explanation whatsoever.
Players don’t really stick with a single woman. That is not what they want. All that makes them happy is the number of women they can have on their list. They don’t care about once in a lifetime kind of experiences or making memories with just a single deserving person. A gentleman doesn’t wish to just get laid. He won’t use to serve his ends. He will care to treat you right. So, look out for these differences so that you can save yourself from all the heartache.