Love and Lust in Lockdown: Valentine’s Day Ideas for Kinky Couples

National and regional lockdowns have taken their toll on couples across the world. Social distancing guidelines have made things difficult for couples living apart, while couples who live together face equally unprecedented and stressful circumstances.

COVID-19 restrictions have also negatively influenced people’s sex lives. So, with one of the most romantic days of the year rapidly approaching, what can couples do to keep the spark alive and maintain romantic intrigue?

Spicing up Your Sex Life on Valentine’s Day

From creating ambience with music and candles to performing a highly erotic massage on your partner can give your sex life a boost without needing to leave the house — or the bedroom, for that matter. These tips aren’t reserved to quarantined couples, either.

  1. Set the mood.

One of the least romantic things about lockdown is spending hours on end close to your partner. For some, this is a dream come true, but being confined to the same spaces while you work, take care of your children or make the best of your free time can put a strain on your relationship.

Not having enough space to be apart can be uncomfortable and frustrating, making it essential to set the mood if and when you’re planning to get intimate. Take away any distractions, put on a playlist and create an erotic atmosphere. Dimming the lights and using candles can help create a pleasant ambience that’ll help each of you unwind and settle into a state of relaxation, as well as providing some novel excitement for the evening ahead.

  1. Focus on your foreplay.

Mental and physical preparation are undervalued aspects of intimacy. Some find it easy to step into a romantic setting and turn on their sensuality without any issues, but the vast majority of people need a little more stimulation than that to get them “in the mood”. 

Foreplay is often overlooked, so take the time to undress each other slowly and appreciate each other’s bodies. Controlling the situation and holding out on your urges will make the experience all the more exciting, as opposed to simply jumping into bed together.

  1. Spoil your partner.

There’s no better time than Valentine’s Day to express your love and gratitude towards your loved one than with some romantic rituals. Treat them to an erotic massage, teasing and pleasing them with tantric techniques that’ll be sure to bring them to a state of euphoric bliss. Not only will an erotic massage further set the mood, but the use of tantalising touch will create tension that’ll only be broken by the most intimate of acts.

  1. Try out some new moves.

Sex doesn’t always have to be completely spontaneous; a routine can help couples plan their time together. It can help bring couples together, but it can also make love-making something of a chore to those who’ve lost their enthusiasm, especially if you’re getting busy in the same positions every time. That’s why it’s important to try out some new tricks to enhance your bedroom antics.

Kama Sutra might fall outside of some couple’s comfort zones, but there’s no harm in exploring some new techniques to arouse your partner and reignite your passions. There’s an element of fun in trying out new positions, so allow yourself to be playful with your partner and break down any boundaries you each might have in the bedroom.

  1. Instigate some real intimacy.

If you’ve explored every position under the sun, romantic sex isn’t merely about how many different ways you can “do it”. Take your time and slow things down. Look deeply into your partner’s eyes, hold their hand and focus on the spiritual and emotional connection you have. 

Whether you’ve been together for ten weeks or ten years, going slow and steady will give you both the time to enjoy the moment and bring you closer together as a result. It might seem simple, but it’s super effective at creating an intense and erotic atmosphere on a truly romantic occasion.

Valentine’s Day and Lockdown Love-Making

Lockdown has proven difficult for everyone, but there are things we can learn from the experiences that have upended our lives and tested our relationships. Bringing yourselves closer together and doubling-down on your physical, emotional and spiritual connections will give you both romantic experiences to remember. 

Whether you’re an adventurous couple looking for new and exciting ways to please each other or you want to reconnect with your partner on a deeper level on Valentine’s Day, take the time to indulge each other and have an unforgettable 14th of February.