The first thing that comes to our mind when we think of an arranged marriage setup is that how the hell am I suppose to know whether he is the one for me in forty minutes? But believe me, there are a set of questions that can be so insightful that you can judge his personality pretty well in a go. His answer to those questions are going to determine what traits he possesses.
So, you parents have started approaching you with pictures of the prospects and you are weary about the whole idea. But take a deep breath and relax! Arranged marriages have their own charm and if you ask the right questions in the marriage meeting, you won’t be finicky about the whole idea of an arranged marriage.
Continue reading the post to know what questions you should ask a guy in an arranged marriage meeting.
So, the first set of questions are-
QUESTIONS TO BREAK THE ICE
If you had the power to meet anyone in the world, who would you meet?
This question will help you decode his areas of interests. Usually a person would use this power to meet anyone whose work inspires them or entertains them. For instance, if he says Barack Obama, you would know that he takes interests in politics and leadership. You can further ask him to find out as to why he wants to meet him or what is it about him that he finds charismatic.
Do you want to be famous?
Majority of people want to be famous. So his answer to this question will help you find out whether he falls in the majority or is he happy with his sweet and simple life. This will also help you know whether he is ambitious or not. Be careful if he says he would like to imitate Andrew Cannon (the world famous criminal), then he surely is a person who loves fame coming his way by hook or by crook. And then, you should know where the exit door is.
What is your idea of a perfect day?
This is one of the most important questions in the list. Because his answer will help you decipher whether you as a person fit into his picture of a perfect day. His answers are going to help you find out whether this arranged marriage setup is going to work well with you both are not.
Name a few things you and your partner must have in common.
Another very important question that you should ask the guy is this one. People look for commonalties in an arranged marriage meeting and the more common interests and ideas you share, the more you are considered to be suitable for each other. If he responds with caste, religion or city, you should start googling ‘How to turn down an arranged marriage meeting?’
What are you most grateful for?
This question will help you find out about his morals and values. If he says he is most grateful for his pet dog, then you can understand that he is someone who is sensitive towards animals and if he says it is his family that he is most grateful for, then you get to know that he is someone who likes to treasure his relationships.
QUESTIONS TO KNOW EACH OTHER
1.What is your biggest accomplishment in life?
This will give you an insight into his life, details of which were not shared on the matrimonial site. You will get to know about his best performances and areas of his life where he has hit a master stroke. This is a good question to ask a guy to uncover something profound in his life.
2.What do you value the most in friendship?
A person’s outlook towards a relationship helps one find out what are the aspects of it that appeals to him and things that he is keen about in a relationship. If you think you are on an agreement to his answers, chances are high that you both will make a good match in future.
3.What is your most terrible memory?
A lot, a lot of a person’s secret lies in these answers. People usually don’t talk about their weakness, mot because they themselves aren’t aware what makes them anxious. But this question will help you learn about a person in depth. You will be able to understand what are the things that haunt him and terrifies him which he otherwise wouldn’t reveal to you.
4.When did you last cry?
Well, most guys like to say that they don’t cry, which is a hopeless lie. If he says that too, you should know he is lying. Also, this could help you find out some profound incident in his life that made him upset.
5. Do you think your childhood was privileged?
A critical question that you should ask smartly. His answers will help you know how his family functions and whether there is any emotional baggage that he carries from his childhood. This question in an arranged marriage meeting will help you understand how his family shaped his childhood.
So these are the set of questions that you must consider asking a guy in an arranged marriage meeting to know him. One key suggestion is that you must know how to phrase your questions, it shouldn’t seem rehearsed and should have a mellow tone.