There’s still a lot of hush-hush information when it comes to sex. As far as we’ve gone in our acceptance of diversified sexual practices, there are still many taboos that even liberal societies cannot overcome.
Are you wondering whether the stuff you’re enjoying in the bedroom is completely normal? Here’s the answer – as long as it is perfectly consensual and bringing pleasure, it definitely is.
Still, many completely normal practices are being labeled taboo due to prejudices or outdated views of sex. Here are a few of those.
Bondage and BDSM
While BDSM and bondage are still considered fringe practices, studies show that many people have such fantasies and an interest to try these options out.
A 2014 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine suggests that 65 percent of the questioned women fantasize about being dominated by a partner and 47 percent of the participant in the poll want to dominate someone else. Being tied up is a fantasy for 52 percent of the people questioned.
As you can see, light bondage and some power play are very common fantasies. And if you’re dreaming about this kind of sexual exploration, you are not alone.
There are many ways to make your first steps in the world of BDSM and bondage. Getting started with some light bondage is a good idea to determine your boundaries. Once you do that, you can take your experiments to the next dimension with a willing partner and the right accessories.
An old-school notion is still floating around. It’s suggesting that period sex is unclean and problematic and as such, it shouldn’t be practiced.
There’s nothing weird about period sex. In fact, many women discover their libido going up due to hormonal changes during that time of the month. Having sex can also help relieve menstrual cramps and some other discomforts associated with the monthly period.
Period sex is perfectly safe and normal if you are prepared for it. You should feel well enough to have sex. If you’re having intense cramps, do listen to your body and postpone such experiences. Also, don’t forget to use protection. It’s still possible to get pregnant while you’re on your period.
Pegging and Anal Play
While porn has popularized anal sex, it’s still considered a major taboo among many societal segments. When it comes to a female penetrating her male partner anally (pegging), the taboos intensify even further.
Pegging is a no-no practice for many heterosexual men who worry that trying out anal stimulation could “turn” them gay. This isn’t how it works.
Anal penetration is the only way to directly stimulate the prostate. There’s a reason why the gland is often called the P-spot. Direct prostate stimulation can contribute to incredibly powerful orgasms (not to mention how beneficial it is as far as reproductive health is concerned).
If you’re a guy who wants to try out pegging, don’t hesitate to discuss the option with a partner. Chances are that she’ll be willing to explore, as well.
Not only are pegging and anal sex pleasurable, they can also build trust and intimacy in the relationship. Many couples who expand their sexual practices to the realm report feeling more connected and in sync than before.
Using “Kinky” Sex Toys
Some sex toys like the good, old dildo and the vibrator have gotten societal acceptance and they’re already considered normal.
Other kinds of kinkier, niche toys, however, are still largely deemed a taboo.
While the sex toy market has become truly diversified today, there are people who fear testing out more unusual options. These people don’t want to be labeled freaks in the bedroom, which is why they resist such urges.
Some consider sex toys like big black dildos a taboo. The same applies to gags and clamps, some kinds of restraints and even sex dolls.
Most urges and fetishes are completely normal and healthy. They don’t harm anyone and lead to tons of pleasure. If you’re eager to explore kinky toys, go ahead. Chances are that they’ll give you experiences you’ve never considered possible in the past.
In traditional heteronormative society, a guy is supposed to be the more active and even the dominant party during sex. Women are meant to be submissive. When roles get reversed, many people start worry about such practices being taboo.
The truth of the matter is, however, that many guys like to be dominated. This is why the profession of the dominatrix exists.
It’s ok to switch roles and engage in some power play with a partner. It’s up to the two of you to determine who’s going to be dominant and who will be the submissive party (and if you’re going to switch things up). Don’t think about gender roles and societal expectations. Focus on what the two of you enjoy.
Having Others Joining the Fun
People are supposed to be monogamous and committed, right?
This doesn’t have to be the case.
There are people out there enjoying polyamorous relationships. There are also monogamous couples that like to bring more people in the relationship.
You should definitely consider a threesome or even group sex, if that’s your thing.
What matters is discussing such ideas openly and honestly with your partner. Everything you do in the bedroom should be desired by both parties involved. Doing something behind your partner’s back will only break trust.
When bringing additional people in your sexual relationship, you should have clear boundaries. Determine what both of you are comfortable with and what should be avoided. If you stick to activities within that framework, everyone involved will have a ton of fun.
Don’t let society dictate what’s normal and what isn’t in the bedroom. You know yourself and your partner too well. If you don’t explore all facets of your sexuality, chances are that you’ll feel largely disappointed in the future. Think about your relationship and your desires. If you manage to tune society out of the conversation, you’ll end up being a lot happier and much more sexually satisfied than before.