Being taken for granted by your partner is one of the saddest places to be in. Your love for them went off limits and instead of teaching them to value you even better they learnt to get used to that love and use it their advantage forgetting that your love is voluntary and that they do stand a chance to lose out on it if they don’t understand it.
You must not let you partner take your love for a ride and let them deal with your love just the way they’d like to without taking into account your feelings and desires. You must hold back at times to make them realise your importance in their lives. However if they don’t then you should learn to value yourself and walk out.
Here are a few red flags that you have been taken for granted by your beloved:
THEY ALWAYS FORGET TO SAY “THANK YOU”
The little and the big things you do for your partner have begun to feel natural to them so that they don’t feel the need to say thank you. It is because they have taken you for granted wholly and they don’t realise what all you have been doing for them until and unless you stop.
THEY DON’T CARE FOR YOUR ADVICE
They don’t feel it necessary to seek your advice because they have taken for granted the fact that you’re going to be okay with whatever they decide on, given the fact that you care about them so much.
Asking for advice is different to expecting them to make decisions for you. Asking for your partner’s advice on things will make them feel important and valued.
THEY DISREGARD YOUR OPINION
In a relationship, your opinion matters with regard to issues concerning the both of you. If your partner decides on a spot for vacation without consulting you then it is a big example of the fact of their having taken you for granted.
Your opinion doesn’t matter. They might even disregard your interference and stick to what they find suitable, only because they have taken your nature to tolerate for granted.
THEY MAKE PLANS WITHOUT INCLUDING YOU
All their plans involve what makes them happy. Going to visit their friends during New Year, booking tickets to a movie you wanted to watch with them, with somebody else.
While it is healthy to maintain personal space unconnected to the relationship, it is also important that your partner wants to involve you in fun activities and not want you around only during times of need.
THEY ESCAPE FROM DOING THEIR FAIR SHARE
If it’s you who always makes the bed in the morning or breakfast during the weekend, and also you are the one to always call the plumber when the sink is broken then it’s a sign that your partner has taken you for granted.
Your partner needs to do their fair share of work without having to be told to. They should value your efforts and want to lend their hands in whatever you’re doing to make you feel as though they really care.
It is important to show that you care once in a while, no matter how many ages you’ve spent together.
SPECIAL OCCASIONS DON’T HOLD IMPORTANCE TO THEM
If special occasions matter to you but don’t hold importance to your beau then your beau has definitely taken you for granted. They may think that you will stick around regardless even if they feel a bit lazy in making you feel special on occasions like these.
Have you ever the hoped that your partner would get you flowers on Valentine’s even though you had thought it stupid considering the number of years you’ve spent together involving so many valentines’ days when you had just started off with the relationship?
The unfulfillment of these little expectations show that your partner indeed has taken you for granted.
I mean c’mon, if I’d want to show you how much I love you just to make you feel special I would get for you your favourite box of chocolates at least once in two months to show you that you matter.
THEY DON’T MAKE AN EFFORT TO BE ROMANTIC
After a long time has passed into the relationship, couples begin to slack and show less appreciation to their partners for whatever little they do for one another. The charm of the relationship too begins to die out and so it is even more important to be romantic with your loved ones to keep the spark alive and the relationship going.
It isn’t ideal to let the interest of keeping things upbeat in a relationship fade. This happens only when partners begin to take one another for granted. Don’t be lazy. Everything in life needs to be worked hard on in order to reap benefits.
THEY LIE AND EMOTIONALLY CHEAT
A lying and cheating partner obviously has lost all respect and value for you.
Are you okay with unnecessary lies that you partner blurts out to you; For instance saying that they are sick at home when they have really gone out for shopping with a friend?
If you aren’t somebody who encroaches into their private space then there is absolutely no reason for them to lie to you.
Another classic example of having been taken for granted is to be emotionally cheated on by your partner. Cheating is not all about the physical aspect. Emotional cheating is even more dangerous, when a person begins to emotionally bank on someone while sidelining you and keeping you as an option.
THEY DON’T ASK ABOUT YOUR DAY OR BELIEVE IN THE QUICK HUGS/KISSES
Little things do matter.
Things like a quick hug or a kiss, a small love note saying how much they mean to you or asking about their day at the end of a tiring schedule can make a whole lot of a difference to your partner’s mood.
These are simple things that you ought to do when you are in a fulfilling love relationship in order to make your beloved feel special. It is only when the partner has taken you for granted and lost interest in you that they don’t find the need any longer to do these little things.
THEY FAIL TO CONSIDER YOUR FEELINGS
What about how you wanted to spend Saturday with your mother because it was her birthday but your partner forced you into going to that concert that they had longed to go to for a long time, only because their friend who they had planned it with walked out on them?
What about your feelings? Hasn’t your partner taken you for granted when they fail to see what makes you happy and even if they do they simply choose to overlook it to satisfy their neediness?
THEY COME AROUND AND LEAVE HOWEVER THEY WILL
Cancelling plans at the last minute for another more exciting plan with the friends can be a huge red flag of your partner having taken you for granted. You don’t want to be somebody they come to when there is nothing else and nobody else to keep them occupied.
You need to make them understand that you must have an exclusive existence in their life which cannot be replaced by others. If however your partner is unable to provide you that space then you should give your relationship a second thought.
If any of these red flags have made themselves prominent in your love life then it’s time to take a measure either by having a frank conversation with your partner and if all else fails then by walking straight out.