16 Questions to ask your partner if you want to know him deeply

It is very easy to say that I know him/her from inside out. Sometimes years of friendships and togetherness also feels less in getting to know someone. Spending a lot of time with someone is definitely a great way of getting to know them better but the right thing to do is to communicate with them and up the quality of your conversation by asking the right questions. Following are the questions you should ask someone if you are trying to know their deeper side. This will make you clear about their perceptions in life and will get you into knowing things that they otherwise wouldn’t mention. So here you go!

16 Questions to ask your partner if you want to know him deeply

  • What’s your philosophy in life?

A person is constituted by his experiences in life. He/she generally forms opinions based on their experiential reality. We all have our own set of habits and practices in life that defines us. This question will help you understand how he approaches life and how he likes leading his life on a normal basis.


  • What was the best phase in your life?

This will help you in knowing what is the source of happiness in their life. What brings them their kind of joy and the point in their lives where they felt the happiest. This is an integral part of their life which you must try knowing.


  • Would you ever take back someone who cheated?

There are things that are deeply buried in people and it normally doesn’t come out. The answers to this question will help you to know how they handle betrayal and what is their concept of forgetting and forgiving someone.


  • How do you feel about sharing your password with your partner?

Passwords are highly confidential and people are hesitant in sharing it even with a family member. This will make you aware how far do they like trusting someone or how privy they are as a person.


  • What was the worst phase in your life?

16 Questions to ask your partner if you want to know him deeply

To know someone genuinely involves knowing their hardships and troubles that they have dealt in their lives.


  • Is what you’re doing now what you always wanted to do growing up?

This will get you details about his childhood as well as what runs on his mind in his present relating his career.


  • What makes you feel accomplished?

Different people have different notions on accomplishments and success. What is success for you may mean nothing to the fellow person. To understand someone’s definition of success, this question must be asked to them.


  • What’s your favorite book/movie of all time and why did it speak to you so much?

It is rightly said that there is one book for everyone. And there is one movie that is someone’s personal favorite. The choice of books, music and movies speak a lot about people’s tenderness and minds. This is always an interesting part of a person.


  • What is a relationship deal breaker for you?

As stated earlier, different people different concepts. Hence, it is always good to know what works for them instead of guessing a lifetime.


  • Are you more into looks or brains?

Not everyone appreciates brains over beauty or vice versa. People have their own hypothesis and there is nothing wrong with it. Although, this is an essential part in getting to know someone as it will give you a transparent abstract about his/her choices in life.


  • When do you think a person is ready for marriage?

Always best to know what is their idea of ‘finally I think I can settle down now’.


  • What kind of parent do you think you will be?

16 Questions to ask your partner if you want to know him deeply

Parenting is of several different styles. Your coolest of buddies will be the strictest of parents in future. There have been several such examples. Parenting is deeply associated with different upbringing ideologies and self-awareness.


  • What would you do if your parents didn’t like your partner?

This is one of the prominent questions to ask if you are attempting to dig insights into a person’s mind. When your partner is rejected by your family, you may feel like standing up for your partner at the cost of your family but some people may leave their partner immediately at such a state of opposition. It is always a smart thing to be familiar with their terms and conditions so that you can avoid future conflicts.


  • Who is that one person you can talk to about just anything?

You will open chapters about his 3a.m friendships.


  • Do you usually stay friends with your exes?

Some people are totally cool like that and no, it does not imply they are playing safe by keeping options open and nowhere does it indicate signs of cheating. It is simply  a choice that depends on the equation they had when they were dating


  • Have you ever lost someone close to you?

Will give you a clearer picture about the timelines of his life.



There is so much to a person behind that soft hellos and timid smiles. In order to get to know them better, ask these questions. You will be able to comprehend them better and will also give you a picture of how well you guys are intertwined with each other’s details and information.

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Ashwathi is an enthusiastic traveller and dancer with a passion for movies and music. Hailing from an Army background, she considers herself fortunate enough to have experienced the diverse cultures that India boasts of. She is a graduate in Journalism and Mass Communications and has worked in print, radio and television.