Jealousy isn’t the issue; it is the outcome of a build-up of the issue. The issue is something else; something deeper, something more complex,
And this issue can different for each of us. For some it could be, want of attention and the lack of it, for others it could be under confidence, fear, or a disability.
No matter what the issue may be, if we recognize it, we can prevent jealousy from tampering with our relationships.
BE REASONABLE AND RECONSIDER YOUR ENVY
First ask yourself as to what it exactly is that is causing you jealousy. Try to give yourself a detailed and elaborate answer. When you’re done doing that, ask yourself whether jealousy will change anything, for you?
Your answer will inevitably be ‘no’, in most probability. Hence do not waste your emotions feeling a certain way that cannot come of any help to you in altering the situation you are in. It’ll simply upset you further.
VIEW OTHERS IN A MORE POSITIVE LIGHT
Do you know that each of us fall victim to some sort of insecurity at some point in our lives, no matter how perfectly in control we might appear to be?
You need to understand that every human being is capable of attaining success, making mistakes, and then picking themselves up, and that includes you as well.
Try to find an affinity with those around you. We’re all making mistakes and then desperately trying to regain our position, among people.
To avoid jealousy try to look at the positive side of people. Forgive them their flaws just like you would forgive yourself for your own.
EITHER TRUST YOUR PARTNER OR ELSE OPT OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP
You can walk on just one of these two paths. Put all your trust into the relationship and your partner and get prepared, for either the best or the worst, when you have decided to stay. But don’t linger in between with an ever existent paranoia.
WORK ON YOUR OWN SELF CONFIDENCE
You won’t feel all that jealous about somebody else’s life when you are confident about yourself. Build your self confidence. Be proud of whatever you have and work towards bettering it instead of sulking about something you know you can’t amend. Don’t let go to waste your energy and your emotions.
DON’T CONSTANTLY CONJURE UP SUSPICIOUS THOUGHTS AND CREATE TROUBLE
You have to relax. Take a deep breath and stop imagining things. If your boyfriend hasn’t gone behind your back to do anything wrong as of yet then why do you have to keep worrying as though he is up to something? It is only going to ruin your peace of mind.
Like I said earlier, when you have decided to stay with somebody, you need to be comfortable enough in the relationship and trust the person. If you’re however not sure about this person or the relationship then move out of it,
Because if they have to backstab you, they will, regardless of how much you try to prevent it. So sit back and enjoy the ride until and unless you actually face a bump on the road.
ALLOW YOUR PARTNER HIS AND CHERISH YOUR OWN FREEDOM
Understand that every individual requires personal space, no matter how much in love they may be with another person. You must not only allow your partner that space but allow yourself the space as well. It is healthy for the relationship
Let them go ahead and do what they enjoy, independent of you. You too have your friends and family. Take some time out for yourself as well.
Trust me it feels great to do things on your own sometimes without having anybody to accompany you. This will help you discover yourself and understand yourself even better,
And I think it is very important to first get yourself in order to get somebody else.
Has jealousy ever gotten in your way? How have you dealt with it?